How is a deep or meaningful relationship supposed to be? How is it to be "seen" and feel like the other person is interested in the surface and deeper 'you' in a relationship?

What is /htgwg/? How to Get Women General is by anons, for anons, about the modern dating landscape. So bring all of your questions about dating here. Some anons on this site actually get partners and laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date people, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro. >What is /htgwg/ not? These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, femlcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, pinkpillers or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating people is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htdg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM! >How to ask for advice Context is important: be more specific than "I got ghosted, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, someone was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with them? How long have you known them? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question. >Resources and Books https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach) https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyGamerGG https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612 https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/ https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (embed) (Leykis 101) https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual people in the real world.

How do I get rid of my sugar addiction? I'm eating a tub of chocolate ice cream right now...

Is dating a single mom EVER worth it? Does anyone have any personal stories of their success or failures? I keep getting matches with single moms but i dont want to be a step dad, ever.

How do you resist being sexually attracted to women that you absolutely fucking hate with every fiber of your being? You know what I'm talking about? Those evil cunts that killed your dog in cold blood but you can't resist looking at their ass?

I'm attracted to men in a sexual sense, but I really don't like men as friends or company. They aren't as developed mentally as most of my other friends, and they usually have a lot of weird unresolved shit going on that they refuse to address or think about bc admitting they have issues isn't "manly" or w/e. My feelings don't do much to keep them from trying to hang around me all the time. I just want a submissive bf who will let me peg him who leaves me alone when I don't want him for something, but for the small number of guys I've gotten to peg they all had an expectation they'd get to fuck me back. Am I going about this the wrong way, or should I just try to be a lesbian? I feel like I would have a more fulfilling relationship with a woman but I wouldn't be sexually happy.

Is it true that you can't really tell how big a dude's dick is from a dick pic? Cause I've seen pics of some dudes that look like they had massive bbc dicks but they were only like 6 inches. Now, on the reverse... are there dudes that look small on camera but are actually massive when you measure them irl? Yes, this is a serious question. Answer it or I'll fucking kill you.

I'm (25M) in a poly-ish relationship with a guy and a girl, we're all childhood friends who've been on and off for a couple years now. I've watched them having sex quite a few times and he (26M) always seems to be able to get her (25F) to orgasm, even during penetration, and often multiple times in a single session. I'm pretty sure I haven't managed it once despite trying more than a few times by now. Maybe some of that is because he usually fucks her harder and lasts longer than I do, but I refuse to believe that he's just more adept at using his hands and tongue than I can ever be. I've noticed that she's started to prefer him over me more and more openly lately, and I feel like she certainly enjoys the sex more with him too, so I want to change her mind because I'm worried about losing her. TL;DR What techniques can I use to get better at getting my gf off during foreplay? What's his secret sauce and what am I missing or doing wrong?

Which dating app is the least bad?

What are women looking genuinely for exactly during their "bad boy phase"? And why does it stop after 30?

i want to date a very specific kind of man. basically my male version. i can't see myself being happy or understanding anyone else, and i don't think i would be attracted to them. >dont care about height/good looks as long as you arent fuck ugly. would prefer dark hair but its not a nonnegotiable. >fellow misanthropic reclusive loner who gave up on fitting in. someone in the same position of being too spergy for normal people but not spergy or sensitive enough for most autists. >likes nerdy otaku stuff and has some weird kinks >wants a long term serious relationship >lives within an hour or so because i want to meet and date, so while i probably could find this guy online edating just wont work for me ive tried hinge and bumble but virtually every person ive seen has had pictures of them at the gym or drinking at parties. obviously youre supposed to put a good front on for potential dates but its offputting. is my account too new and still showing me all the 'good' and 'normal' people? made this thread before but i didnt actually have experience on any apps and now im realising how hopeless it really is, i thought there had to be at least one out there. i have also tried hiki (neurodivergent) but it is very us-centric and i live in the uk. i feel like a lot of these men have become trans women. maybe i should look out for that? but im only attracted to male presentation. i have tried to widen my standards but i feel nothing, i have a very narrow view of what i want and i don't think i can change that. so, are there any alternate apps i can look for with this in mind? any places i can go irl? maybe cons? but ive never been so i dont know what goes on there and if theyre anything like me they don't go outside. i just dont know.

those who have tried it, how did you (not) do it? What was it like?

Thoughts? Bought LMT at $510, sold at $645 Now buying Google at current prices after the crash

I’ve lost interest in my bf (dating since 2023) Thru no fault of his own. How do I let him down gently saying I’ve fallen out of love? I feel cruel doing it, but feel lying is dishonest. He bought a flat for us and I feel so guilty

How do I get my gf to be normal about her lips? She has regular white girl lips which I think look great but she's self conscious about it and insists that she needs bigger lips because it's what she sees on instagram or whatever. Currently what she does is she'll overpaint her top lip to make it look bigger. See pic. I'll post a couple others. I've told her I think it looks dumb and looks like she doesn't know how to apply makeup. She think's it's a subtle way to make her lips look bigger. But even on top of that she is insisting on getting lip injections to make her lips bigger and I don't want her to start down that rabbit hole. I've tried telling her I love her lips, I kiss her all the time, she's beautiful, etc etc but she says I'm her boyfriend so I have to say that stuff and everyone else is judging her for having thin lips. I genuinely love her and don't want her to start doing all this plastic surgery bullshit but she is insisting.

As title. I'm not going to bother taking the phone to get fixed again, the screen has done this a couple times now. Is their a way I can move the files from the phone to a computer without being able to use the phonescreen itself?

My older sister has an obsession with a died-young rocker. He was obscure enough that saying who it is might be a privacy issue. This is obviously not healthy. She can't form real relationships as a result. I'm pretty sure she's a virgin and she has never had a relationship. She is 30. I had the misfortune of snooping through her phone. She has saved hundreds of pics of this man, pictures of zines & articles mentioning him, and spent money on vinyl records, CDs and more. But worst of all, she uses AI chat bots to roleplay talking to him. Some of the chats have supernatural or sci-fi aspects, such as time travel, and some are more grounded. It looks like she spends hours a day, maybe even most of her time roleplaying in that app (Chai). She's private about it and I wouldn't know how bad it was if I didn't guess her pin on her phone. What the fuck do you do about that?

What benefits does hard working have for a lonely man that doesn't have any goals in life? why keep going being a wage slave in a shit physical job? I like climbing and watching films, but when I get older, my knees will be done. Why keep going If I don't see a clear path? It's all so meaningless NEETdom was the true freedom

I have hounded this board for years trying to seek advice to change but I can’t do it. I’m stuck in a loop because I will never learn or be able to change and help myself. I am ethnically and psychologically inferior, ugly, vile and selfish subhuman trash who needs to go. I see no future for myself and it’s impossible for me to become someone I want to be while I’m this way and stuck in this life and country. I know it’ll be temporary but I’m so scared of pain, I want to go as peacefully as I can. I’m bad with my hands and don’t think I could tie an effective noose, I’m sheltered and don’t know where to get pills or anything. I think I would freeze standing at a tall height. Even if we had guns over here I think I would still freeze. I haven’t looked into this much. Is there a gentler way? If I wasn’t so scared of pain I think I would offer myself up to a cannibal or something just to do something before I die.

meet a weird fat girl through some friends of mine, hang out in a group a couple times, one of the hang out sessions she just asks me when we're alone if I want some pussy... I say yes, eat her out and fuck her. She's get decent enough pussy and head skills, even lets me fuck her in the ass, but she's a total spergette, literally last time why hooked up she told me she wanted me to "edge in her pussy" while she watched some weird political videos on her phone. Another time she explained to me the whole plot of a book called Roadside picnic then talked about stalker lore while I was hitting, only to put on a full on gas mask mid fuck. She also has a scary amount of guns and knives and boxes of rations and survival food... she also says weird shit sometimes like I should always have a plan to kill everyone I meet and if I ever need to eat someone to avoid the brain and upper spine to avoid prion disease. I want to cut things off with her because I feel weird fucking a chick that psychotic, but I'm afraid she'll kill me. My friend said shes weird but harmless but I dunno man... She's been getting pissy because even though I bag it I've been pulling out to cum you know... just in case, and she finds it insulting. What do I do?

Is my opinion on younger women

Do you still think you can love a woman, or has being an incel for so long killed it? I feel like I won't be able to love any woman now. Not sure how to deal with it. Not even sure if it's a problem. Just looking for feedback.

When I was in 8th grade, I had a huge crush on a girl who turned out to be a gigantic bitch. I asked her to dance with me at a school dance and she rejected me rather harshly. Back then I was unpopular and massively socially awkward. I hated being alive, but she mesmerized me with her personality and beauty. I guess I had failed to see her less fortunate qualities. I was such a dumb kid. Anyway, after being rejected by her, the most beautiful and popular girl in the school and her best friend, also a beauty and quite popular, asked me if I wanted to dance with them. Heartbroken, I politely declined, but I forever after loved the both of them for the kindness they showed me in one of my darkest moments. We never really hung out afterwards, because I had my own group and friends and was generally very busy with them, but I saw the most beautiful one a year later at my new school. She was in tears and told me she was pregnant, then wandered off before I could collect my wits and respond. Her boyfriend had gotten her pregnant. I felt very bad for her. I saw her later at a grocery store. At least I think it was her. She seemed ok, but was with people so I avoided bothering her. I found out decades later that she had died just a few years after that. I never knew. I never got to say goodbye or thank her for being there for me and apologize for being such a socially awkward kid that I didn't have the nerve to say anything I really wanted to say. So here goes. I hope she can see this from Heaven. Magon...I'm sorry for my failures. I am grateful to have known you. You were the best person I ever knew. I will always love you for the kindness you showed me. If you can see me, please forgive me for my failings and mistakes. You were the best, most decent woman I ever knew.

Repairing almost ten years of porn damage to my brain. I've had a porn addiction for as long as I can remember. When I was very young I was exposed to extreme porn through unmoderated Internet access and eventually to erp and even more extreme fetishes when I began to browse omegle at a very young age (i never consumed any actual illegal content too be clear). This has always been kind of like a second life that didn't really register in my brain and ive become completely apathetic to what should be disgusting to me. Recently however something just snapped and I began to realise how disgusting it all really was and how I was never really into any of it and had just progressively exposed myself to it as a kid. I've decided to go cold turkey, I will never touch porn again no matter what, I dont even want to have a normal but active relationship to it I just want to stop it forever. Now I however have three main issues that I don't know how to handle: Wanting to repair my brain so I stop being so desensitised to all the disgusting stuff I was into. Wanting to understand how I can repair my self image as a normal person again without just thinking of how disgusting ive been to engage in this. Understanding how I can look the people in my life in the face without thinking of what a freak ive been. Finally I also want to stop being paranoid that this would all get out, like I mentioned I used to erp so someone out there technologically still has it all on logs even though it can't be linked back to me. However I also sent my real face when I used to sext with people (but only sfw normal selfies so nothing actually compromisng in any picture i ever sent). Also for reference im 22 now and this addiction has been very intense since 13, It was mostly just something I got kind of egged into by being online too young and also becuse it was almost some kind of self harm I felt too deal with my shit life otherwise.

How do I get gain penis sensitivity? My penis is completely dead I can't feel blowjobs or raw pussy at all. I've stopped masturbating for a month and still nothing. I'm not on any medications and my bloodwork is normal. Did circumcision just fuck me? The doc left a little tiny bit of foreskin on one side and I still don't feel it

I am 34 and halfway to 35. I am having a ton of memories of being young flood back into my mind for no particular reason and I am realizing youth is completely over. However! It seems that I am incapable of growing up or becoming professional or serious. I am stuck perpetually in my early 20s mentally. The difference though is that I am completely out of touch with that generation and still think old memes and jokes are funny. I don't know what to do about getting old. I know I can't go back to being young and having fun in the same way but adult hobbies do not really appeal to me.

i coudnt cope with being a wagie anymore so i decided to become a thug. i bought 100 grams of weed from the dark web, but how the fuck do i find clients and sell this shit on the streets? any anons with exp in this?

talking about e relationships (im a guy) how do u even stop obsessing with finding reason for ppl hate you, probably smth developed from childhood with controlling parents and i get turned on by shitty relationships unconsciously

How do I become social again at 40? I'm a single m without friends. I've worked so much to achieve financial success that I have nothing really to show for it. Now, I'm that weird guy who doesn't converse well at meet ups. How do you become social again? I don't drink, don't do drugs, and am a big-time adrenaline junkie. Everything I enjoy people are afraid of or is simply a solo sport. How do I make friends at this point in life?

I've had two interviews and I think I have a real chance. They've asked me to email them my salary expectations. Is CHF 110-120k a good range? I'm worried that since it's an NGO, it'll be low-cost with zero budget. It's a position labelled as Senior, they are looking for someone with a quantitative background and I have a PhD in economics.

How do you not let your criminal record constantly remind you of your past? Especially when you have to answer on applications if you've ever been convicted of a crime?

I’m a junior CS major (cognitive science minor) with a 3.2 GPA with no resume, no projects, no experience / internships, basically nothing. I wasted my first two years being lazy, and now need to relearn the fundamentals I should already know. Realizing that the best time to start is now, not wanting to be unemployed postgrad, and actually wanting to have a better life, I want to actually start building towards getting internships / experience and eventually employment. I'm also planning to do my master's program at my uni, but I know I am definitely not getting in with what I have now, so also trying to build towards that. Still unsure atm for regarding that though. I know that CS is clowned on for being the declining major and the "ai is going to take over", but I choose to believe that I can still get a comfortable and stable job hopefully after grad (god please let it happen). Honestly, I just need to hear advice for what to do resume wise, or just in general / motivation / success stories / any really useful resources. I know that my life isn't over just because of this, but I have lots of regrets and I'm still scared for my future. Starting now I really don't wanna live the life that I currently have. My current plans are to just vibecode up some 3 solid projects (i have the chatgpt $20 plan for free until december cause of student plan, thinking of getting claude sub if chatgpt isn't good enough) and make sure to understand them and how they work. After that, planning to fix my resume with these projects (for now) and spam apply to internships. While that's being done, I'm going to have to use a fundamental CS course and then go on to do DSA, OOP, comp arch, and leetcode as fast as I can for interviews. And hopefully by the end of my junior year I will have an internship and a better understanding of the fundamentals and what I should have been learning.

Ever since I was born I thought something was wrong in me, I was never happy, not a single day. I would remember playing with the other kids in kindergarten and them playing but I would just stay there, not moving at all, no motivation to interact with others or play. It's a hard feeling to explain. Now I'm 20 and it's the same, every day I wake up and think to myself what's the point of it all, I never did hurt myself or anything, I sometimes think about it but don't see the point, but during the day the only thing I look forward to is eating, I just wait for the day to end. It got worse since I finished high school and didn't go to college, I lost contact with others. I try, I promise I try, people especially my family tells me to do something when I'm bored, like reading a book to lift me up, but when I try I give up at like 3 minutes because I start to think what's the point if I'm going to die some day. Why is no one else like me? I HATE that, I hate how others seem to enjoy life while I'm trapped in this pattern of negative thoughts. I always been a very off person, like I don't have emotions. Why did I even exist in the first place? My family would be much happier probably if they didn't have me and just my sister. Of course if you read this you will try to convince me that I'm wrong, that there is more to life but there is just something in my brain, or my body or whatever that is not right and no matter how hard I try to do things and find hobbies it seems it goes nowhere. Will I ever be happy? I don't want to kill myself this young, I'm going to start college next year and my family will miss me, it's so damn hard to explain the feeling I feel every day, but I suffer a lot and no one understand that feeling. I hate myself and my existence. Feel free to make more questions.

(English is not my first lenguage, so that's the reason if í write something wrong or it has no sense, sorry:( ) Anyways, i have been feeling really weird this last two weeks, like, i didn't even noticed anything bad on me, but a friend told me i was acting strange, and since then I tried to find what was wrong with me, i found out i was acting like really stupid, talking about things whit ni sense, trying to talk about something that i didn't understand at all like i knew everything or just talking whit ni sense (just like my english, lmao). But after this i didn't know what was the problem, like, i was doing great after that, but I slowly realized where this all started. In a short way, I'm feeling lonely, in a long way, I'm trying really hard to feel happy around the people that I apreciate, but I don't feel like they feel the same, my friends looked for other friends instead of staying whit me a lot of times, I told my boyfriend about this and he was caring and told me to search for him if I feel like this again, but clearly he isn't a god to be instantly here for me, but I'm still feeling frustraded about that, and now I can't stop feeling like people that is care about don't give a fuck about me, but I really don't want to feel this way, like, if they don't want to look for me, then fuck them, but it becomes harder every time this repeats, like, it's starting to affect my own body, I have a headache since morning and my eyes and lips feels like I had many flys bites(I didn't remember how to say that UnU). So I'm all ears if you have and advice of how to have a little bit of emotional freedom, or just not falling into depression. And thank you if you are really going to help me, everywhere I searched said I should tell someone about my situation, but is hard when the problem is feeling lonely, anyways, thanks again!

An old friend of mine from highschool was accused, tried, and convicted of a crime he never actually commited. Essentially he got nailed for statutory rape. It never even happened. The mother of his 14 year year old girlfriend (my friend was 18) just didn't like my friend because my friend was fat. Her daughter was an emotionally manipulative and abusive slut. So, naturally, my friend got nailed anyway, basically because nobody likes fat guys. Later, probably in part due to his statutory rape record, when zome asshole borrowed his computer and downloaded a bunch of child porn, my friend got blamed. Even worse, the court had his computer destroyed, which destroyed the very evidence that would have exonerated him. Apparently being born a fat guy is a crime and nobody had any interest in him being provably innocent. They just wanted their witch hunt. He went to jail because of it all. Anyway... I feel bad for him and I'm aware of his situation, although I can't prove his innocence, I know him better than he even knows himself, so I know beyond any doubt that he got railroaded basically for being a fat guy. This is just the sick world we live in. My question is... How can I be of help to him? What would you do if a good friend or relative of yours had been fucked over by genetics and, as a result, fucked over by rhe world? How would you help them? From what I've read, his situation isn't common, but it does happen with how fucked our retarded legal system is. He's literally one of the nicest people I've ever known and what happened to him is completely unfair. I just want to be a decent friend.

My girlfriend has a combination of severe anxiety and depression. While she is an overall good person and loves helping people out, she can "accidentally" turn into a total bitch if you phrase something wrong. She has gone through phases of this before, but I have no clue what I should do. I find it incredibly difficult to be honest with her, as if I mention at all that she has done something to make me uncomfortable it will often result in a very very long discussion which often ruins the rest of our day and sometimes the following day. Additionally, getting her to take proper care of herself has been a total nightmare. She legitimately has autism and because of this getting her to eat, go to bed, wake up, shower etc on a regular schedule is nearly impossible. You'd never be able to tell as she is an extremely conventionally attractive individual, but these things drive me nuts. Because I have to take care of her so much, and because whenever I am around her I feel like I am walking through a mine field, becoming sexually interested in her has become extremely difficult, making sex a chore. Whats worse is that we both have rather high libidos, and I am her exclusive sexual outlet, so if I'm not down to fuck she gets pent up whereas I'll just jerk off. I have no idea what to do, as I feel as if explaining all of this to her (and all of the little filler details not included in this) may result in us breaking up, which some days I feel as if would be a good thing. I dont know what to fucking do.

I feel like I lost my sister and she is living her life like I never existed. Feel free to laugh at me. I blocked her on our basic messaging app because I felt unstable and explained that. This is the only time I have done so and she is just accepting it. I feel needy and dumb so feel free to laugh at me.

my bf was the one to bring up how he doesnt believe people should watch porn while in relationships he loves me a lot and is obsessed with me and talks about how i am the love of his life but im addicted to porn what do i do?

I organically have a bunch of the hobbies women are supposed to like. I cook, read, go out doors, I am appropriately media literat, make things, like paper craft and general crafts. I am healthy. I also have some more macho hobbies but that's another point. Anyways this has done absolutely nothing for me in the dating market. Are healthy attractive hobbies just a smoke screen? I have a feeling they are meaningless.

>20 year old collegecel >Have two free hours between classes one day >Look for a spot to sit down and read >See a cute girl sitting by herself watching a show in her phone >Call upon the courage of my forefathers to approach her >Hit it off pretty well, get her number and everything >We talk about our interests and whatnot >Gracefully make my way into talking about relationships >Tell her I've only ever had one genuine girlfriend >She asks surprised >She tells me she's had 'Three serious boyfriends and several situationships' >She mentions that her first boyfriend was a guy that was 'after her' (stalking) for two whole years and she gave him a chance >She mentions that another one was a 23 year old substitute teacher she dated when she was 17 >mfw she's telling me straight up abuse stories like they're teenage romance >Didn't dare to ask about the rest I honestly think I'd have a decent chance of eventually going south of the border with her if I was only after that but she seemed so normal before she told me about those things, she almost seemed innocent and 'lady-like'. I don't usually approach women out of nowhere. Are they always like this? Should I keep talking to her? From what she told me I was able to infer she has a messed up family on top of that.

Ignoring the obvious demoralization shills, master b8ers and retards, how true is this, broadly speaking?

do fat/ugly women have the same tastes/desire in men as hot women? I keep getting uggos matching on the apps, and they msg me to tell me im goodlooking and wanna meet...and i wonder if that means my look is attracting them specifically somehow, or if im attractive to all women, but the pretty ones have way more likes to sift through to even get to me. Is it reliable at all to use the ego boost to cold ask out hot girls in real life without fear of ruining my life?

How do I get my girlfriend to give me blowjobs again? When we started to see each other she'd do it on the regular but now we only have regular sex. I've tried asking her outright but then she gets upset and says it kills the mood when I ask...

quit your job. and see how many "friends" will call you down the line. answer:NONE coworkers aren't your friends

I moved in to.a new country 2 years ago without knowing anyone. I had classmates/friends in my first year but after school ended, they all went separate ways. I was all alone and jobless as a foreigner for 6 months until I met my gf back in April. She cured my confidence and self-worth to the point that I was finally able to have a successful interview and land a good job. I will forever be thankful for that, even though all she did was talk to me. Fast forward 6 months and I am now on the verge of breaking up with her. Not that she has gotten worse, she is as sweet and caring towards me as she ever was. The problem is; deep inside, she is not my type. I love the time we spent together and a part of me doesn´t wanna lose her bc she changed me so much in the last 6 months. But I have noticed that I have started some old habits again out of frustration that she is not my type (I would never tell her that). She is way more in love with me than I am with her. We had a conversation about this that lead to tears and crying, but for a brief second I imagined my winter without her. It looked very bleak in my eyes and I was not ready to end it there. Now I am getting way more attention from women that are my type. But I am afraid that no one will love me like she did, never had a girl this committed to me before. But at the same time, I hate the fact that I see her as cute and sweet, and not as a hot fucking gf. Many people told me that looks are artificial in a relationship, its important to have someone. Others told me not to waste her time if I am in there just out of loneliness/thankfulness. IMO: If you are in a fulfilling relationship, u wouldn´t have to think this hard about it. I was dealing with the pros and cons of a breakup: probably a period of grievance where I have to forget all our happy times and her smile. But on the other side, I would get quicker to my character development arc. If I stay with her, I fear it is just going to prolong it.

Let's say I got this message after uploading absolutely ZERO CSAM onto Google drive. Let's say regardless, I don't want the police knocking on my door or to have to defend myself in court. Let's say I don't want Google to automatically send a tip to NCMEC with my IP address attached. Gemini says if it was that bad, they would have locked my account and wouldn't allow me to tamper with it at all (I clicked agree and immediately deleted the whole account) and that it was just a soft-block. Sounds convincing, and I hope it's true but I need extra confirmation.

I hate to say this but the Schooler was right all along. If you want that warm, phenomenalogical socio-sexual development, late Highschool and early College is the place to be.

My boyfriend came out as trans a few days ago, i’ve been dating him for atleast 2 years now, the problem is, i’m a lesbian. I support his transition fully and i love him, i’m just not really attracted to men in that way. And i’m not sure what to do? Do i break up with him or keep dating him despite my preferences?

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How do I start a cult?

i dont really use this site very often, but i dont know where else i can say this. theres this girl, shes basically my only friend. shes not really my type but there are some things i find actractive about her. we've only started to talk more recetly and have been getting along well. shes fun to talk to and we have common interests. well we tried to have sex not long after we started talking a little more. it was supposed to be just an exange between friends, neither of us are virgins and shes been talking about how she hasnt gotten laid in a long time. so as any man would, i took the opportunity. i wasnt really into it but i just wanted to help her out. theres no good way to put this so im just going to say it; i couldnt get hard at all. she was bad at foreplay and i couldnt get into the mood at all. my porn addiction also didnt really help. i just wanted to give her some dick so she'd be happy, but maybe deep down i just wanted to get to her first. we've been hanging out every day even despite that. besically all day everyday. we cuddled a lot but that was it. but i sometimes cooked for her and always held her tight, i wanted her to feel safe next to me. she goes to raves about once a month, i dont really like that stuff so i never go with her. i dont even drink anymore because i get unstable. she said she doesnt want to drink either. she also does extasy on raves, i understood. my ex was an addict and i do xanax so it wasnt anything crazy to me. she went to a rave yesterday and i woke up to an "i got cracked". of course she thought i was going to be happy for here because thats my homegirl. im sure she wouldve been happy for me. we called and she gave me the rundown, but she was confused as to why im not happy for her. i know techincally i shouldnt be hurt, but i am. i dont know if i caught feelings. i dont like sex and i hate kissing, so its not like i wanted to do anything with her. i still do feel a little cheated. what do you think?

I impulsively bought this wacom pro screen drawing tablet for almost 4K and it's really fun to doodle around on it. I really want to learn how to draw for real though. How do I get started? I know that I also have to practice traditionally but I mostly want to draw digitally as I have this ass fucking expensive tablet now. Any advice and resources? How do I get this hobby started for real? The endgoal obviously is to draw cute anime girls but I am open to learn realism and fundamentals along the way.

How do i stop in my head as if im talking to another person? How do i just talk to myself? I don't mean i have two personalities.

Is it cool if I post AI-generated stuff on my art socmeds? I usually post hand-drawn anime girls, but I really wanted to show a 3D-model I generated with AI. How would that affect my reputation and my freelancing business? Thank you

I hate dickbrain so goddamn much. Is this why chinese courtiers cut their balls off so they wouldn't get distracted by horny thoughts 24/7? I'm trying to be productive with my writing and drawing, and I will be for one afternoon, maybe, then I get horny again and the only thing that's on my mind is sex, and it won't go away until I jack off. You have no idea how fucking annoying this is, well unless you're a man, obviously. It's a longshot since I suspect there isn't really a solution to this other than blowing your load when you get the dickbrain, but if you have any wonder advice you can share to alleviate this conundrum please don't let me stop you. Otherwise you can just share your experiences or whatever you feel like, I'm not your daddy

> my plan Properly lose virginity to a woman first, then start using hookers. > current situation I had sex with a woman, but I didn't lose my virginity. I couldn't get a hard-on but I made her come using my fingers. So technically I'm still a virgin but I did have sex. So do I need to find another non-prostitute or can I just go ahead with my plan?

How do I become a schizoid? I prefer being being alone but I still rarely want to talk to other people but I'm too retarded for that so this is what I want to do

i’m somewhere around 43kg and 5’3. i want thicker thighs and like bigger boobs because i don’t like how my jeans look on me. i feel like all the time i’m too skinny and i should eat more, and i do. but i’m not seeing any change. are there any ways i can make my boobs grow without going under that plastic surgery bullshit? i don’t want to go through that. should i start working out or not? is my weight and height okay? i’m super insecure and like my friends say that i’m lucky. but i’m extremely jealous of them who have thicker thighs and a hotter body.

Recently i've been thinking about life., like fuck, is this there is all to it? should i just risk it all? i really feel sad about it. i don't want to die, still, i know i am goingo to die

I sent a woman a picture of my penis after adding her on snapchat then she blocked me but I thought it was a mistake so I found her account on instagram and did it again, now apparently they're seeking legal action like her friend messaged me saying they are reporting it. Is that going to get in Trouble???

im so sad, idk what it is. i have lost weight recently and get attention that i have never got before, and instead of feeling happy its making me so sad, like 10+ years of my life i believe i was worthless and unworthly of love, and society just completely flips because im in shape and better looking now. i hate people. i feel like im living in someone elses body , i dont deserve praise its just so weird, im going insane genuinely , i cant believe people treat you 100x better because you lose weight and look abit better. its so shallow. ive rejected girls when for the past 10 years i wish i had 1 single person to talk to. i feel like ending my life, its not worth living, i overthink everything, are people being nice to me because im me, or because i look better now. i hate everyone. im sad, im angry, im upset, depressed, drunk, everything

i feel pathetic. im not really happy about the way i got in good terms with myself at a young age, like yeah my life feels easier now that i dont have to fight myself to feel good, but now i got zero motivation to do changes, i feel scared and cornered every time i want to do something to get better for my future. i have no motivation to try and exercise myself to loose weight so i can look good for when i get to look for a job once i graduate my dream career, and everytime i get to try doing home exercises i get so frustrated for not being able to execute them good but im so ashamed to ask for help or orientation. i want to do nice things since i like drawing and ive been finally getting into the games i wanted to play as a kid without consoles, but i ofter feel blocked and like im not enough to create something worth attempting. and i want to experience love without having to do everything myself for the boy i want, why cant people do things for me too? but if i dont move then anything will happen, but why do i have to be the one to do everything every single time? and i feel stupid for writting this in a stupid 4chan post but maybe the negative retroalimentation will get me to move finally idk i dont know anymore. i dont want to get worse, but i fear changing from the comfort of my own unmotivation

its so ragefueling that i dont know where to start

When I was 17 I went on a chemistry trip to Costa Rica, it was like a one-month trip that was meant to be educational (counted as a school credit) and experience. The ratio of girls to guys was like 3-1 but I was still too much of an Autistic Incel to get anyone, and the dynamics of girls to guys being so high made it so the girls felt embarrassed talking to any of the guys unless they were one of the two Chads. How was this abuse? Two ways: >No Privacy at all The hotels were those open concept hotels where the showers and bathrooms are totally visible to the room. I tried to set up some artificial curtain but it was basically impossible. I tried timing shits for when nobody was in the room but it was really hard and often in the days before leaving there was no option except to shit there with others in the room. Although it was forbidden, there were multiple times when I was showering that girls were in the room and could see me naked, of course the two Chads brought them in. One of the guys on the trip, whose dad was the "Principle", said one reason they did this is so people couldn't have sex because if someone got pregnant on the trip it would be horrible PR. One moment that stuck out was when I was showering and the Chadlite made out with one of the Stacies. This brings me to the next way I was abused >Getting cucked into oblivion Obviously I'm not entitled to get girls, but the lack of privacy made it so the guys that could get girls had to make out with them in full view of everyone all the time. The Admin put up with it because if they cracked down on kissing, people would be more likely to sneak off for sex. I get traumatized when I see people make out because it is a constant reminder that I'm Incel, and this was unavoidable. It got to the point where Chad was in front of me in line constantly kissing and making out with his girl while I was humilated. I still get flashbacks to the trip, would this constitute abuse?

rate this halloween costume. give advixe there is a goth alternative party this is a blendup of Emo Gothic dark and orange (halloween) before tonight pls

I think sassy gay guys are fun, so I asked my husband if I was a guy if I would be a sassy gay guy. He laughed at the idea and told me I "couldn't even be a gay dude". I'm an enby, and he knows I'm an enby, so it hurts a little that he sees my gender expression as so unilaterally feminine that he can't imagine me with a more masculine but still GNC presentation. I would like to prove him wrong. How could I pass for a gay guy as an AFAB enby? I have a binder and I keep an androgynous haircut/style but my frame is hard to sell as a man's figure.

I put in an effort to try to find some form of community and it crashed and burned. I'm a very messed-up person internally from my upbringing, and I was very sheltered, so I never really had friends or was invited to anything. I'm almost 30, and I know I'm doomed because I've never been invited to a wedding as an adult. I have no close connections, no relationship, no family even really. I don't know why I bother but I'm also too scared to kill myself. What do? I'm tired

how do i help my sister? she wakes up every day at 4am because it makes her feel good about herself, but then doesn't go outside and just stays at home. we're both in university but she just studies at home. what perplexes me is she admits she likes studying at home, but she also has trouble doing any coursework. she says she's just generally "studying" at home all day, but not doing any work on her actual university courses. yes you understood that right. she has some other issues too. she's always telling me how she's optimizing her life and doing personally useful things (big copes), but she refuses to actually study and at this point i think she's bound to drop out. she also very likely has social anxiety and anxiety is her main reason why she's afraid of going to lectures. we have entirely different majors so i can't really come with her to ease her anxiety, although when i offered anyway she didn't seem very interested. i can't just call a therapist on her, how do i make her realize she needs help when she seems to enjoy/accept being this way? i won't force her but i think she'll regret all this 5-10 years later.

Can you give me a step-to-step guide on how to find a gf as a 27 year old loser?

I think in this generation it's astonomically hard compared to others to have a long lasting relationship, it's a burden of this gen, how do you find true love living in the big cities? Everyone has got a reason to not want one, "I'm not ready for a commitment", "I'm non-monogamous" or simply "it wouldn't work" and they don't even give a try.

A bit of background: when I was a child, I used to be quite a different person – sporty, smarter, I was the leader of my group of friends and got up to all sorts of things. My mum tells stories of my little adventures, and they’re captured in the photos I took with my disposable cameras. I’ve always had a poor memory and my recollections are often hazy or seem disconnected from anything, but this particular memory sometimes pops into my mind. I remember watching a programme at home, and one of my great-uncle’s sons was staying with us for a few days. I remember him turning me face down on the sofa and climbing on top of me; I don’t remember much else after that. I’ve spent years searching for that programme that was on the television that day to confirm that this memory is real, but I haven’t found anything; I don’t really know if that’s for the best or not. When I reached pre-adolescence, I became more withdrawn, a loner, quiet, and immersed myself in the world of technology where I could work on my own. Talking to my mum and friends from that time, it was a huge change, even though I don’t remember much – or really anything at all – from those years. I’ve been harbouring this doubt for years; I don’t know whether I was actually abused as a child or not. I’ve never told anyone about it, not even my mum, and I really don’t know if it’s a real memory or not. What do you recommend I do?

Am I considered lazy and taking the easy way in life if I'm a sex worker instead of having a regular job?

I imagine most people would say my "life start" was a good one - loving supportive parents, stable childhood, access to education and resources. A perfectly good middle class. But what does it matter when literally all of it just ends up leaving me at the same future potential as some impoverished orphan who never even went to elementary? What's the point of going to college a STEM career, if you can't even get an unpaid internship due to failing the interview vibe checks (And even then if you did you'd get paid about as much as a McDonalds worker) What purpose is there to struggle if the best efforts just give the same result as nothing? In the end, the only difference between me and a random illiterate bum who spent their childhood skipping school and playing in the streets is that the illiterate bum probably has more friends and spent less time studying.

How do I stop posting on 4chan/imageboards in general? I've been posting here every day since I was ~15, so about ten years.

how can i go on dates without looking for a relationship or paying escorts 100's of dollars per hour? I just have so much love in my heart and nobody to give it to, I want to experience things, going on dates, cinema, shopping but I dont want a relationship, i dont know if that makes sense

i want to go to a halloween party so bad, but it's already kinda late where i live and im a social disaster (i have symptons of social anxiety, and i take meds and go to counseling) but im feeling a deep desire to just take the bus to the part of the city where there's a lot of clubs and just have some fun, but im so afraid bc yk, personal safety, strangers and other shit like that. What should i do?

i made a thread about this girl before. so me and her hung out one time. i have feelings for her, and she knows this. she told me "i'm willing to see where things go" over a bunch of other stuff like she doesn't know what she wants, etc, because i asked her what it meant when she said she doesn't want to lead me on at the bar. fast forward a bit, we have been chatting normally. she would say "morning" sometimes in the morning. we were supposed to go to a pumpkin patch maze, and she told me she couldnt go that day and said she was sick. she specifically said she loves going there and doesnt like to miss it instead of hinting that she wanted to hang with me. i asked her in person "were you really nauseous". and just continued it like a normal conversation. so after some time, i believe right after that, i noticed her not initiating as much, or at all. so i literally bluntly asked her " i dont even know if you like me any more. what is it?" and it kinda spurred this argument where I ended up defending myself most of the time. she said she likes me as a friend but doesnt like how i talk to her sometimes. (asking if she was nauseous, asking her why she has to move and get a river job). there is too much we said but she basically said she values me as a friend and hopes that we feel more comfortable communicating moving forward. well right after this, she still hasn't initiated or sent me a text or anything. it feels the exact same. (we text on discord) should i even bother initiating with her anymore? i really don't understand because i didn't do a damn thing to her and treated her so nicely and we have a lot in common. what should i do?

I am a 29 year old virgin male, is it a wrap for me when it comes to having sex/finding love? I assume women would look at me as a red flag and then leave for knowing about my virginity. Should I just lone wolf it for the rest of my days?

How can I blend in with normies? Most of the time I don't even know what the F my friends are talking about. What do you mean "slay"??? "He ate"??? What the F did he eat??? And why is everyone staring down at their phone while we're hanging out????? I won't make a Tiktock or other social media thing, no thank you, I have been living well without them. I am 24 years old by the way. It's very embarrassing that I'm always asking them what they're talking about or what they're referencing sometimes. Or should I just keep being myself and not focus on understanding them at all? I could always just ask

50-year-old and crippled retard, here. I mean that quite literally. Autism AND ADHD, what a combo, combined with type-2 diabetes and a dogshit spine from having worked for too-many employers who laughed at the motto, "safety over speed." Two things I DO have, however... are a disability pension, and time. Lots of time. So what do I do with it? Well, I'm too fucking retarded to figure that out myself, so it's time to let A.I. do the job. And run my entire life for me. Problem is... which one? I thought about subscribing monthly to Grok, but I don't want to give that faggot Elon Musk any money. ChatGPT sounds fucking lame and I don't know of anything else. That's where you legends come into it. Any ideas on what clanker to give money to, to run my existence? >tl;dr retard needs paid-A.I. to run life, needs suggestions

How do you deal with female coworkers always talking about their social lives, boyfriends, and parties they're going to? My looksmatch, with the same job, skills, interests, and hobbies is invited to parties and is never single. Meanwhile, I'm five years older in my mid 20's KHV. I can't stand when she brings up that she's hanging out with her boyfriend because I know half the time, or maybe even every time, they are fucking. Meanwhile I go to home to my hand everyday. It's gotten to the point where the end of the work day puts me into a depressive mood. I don't want to feel so hopelessly lonely after work everyday. I try to enjoy my copes, but the resentment for women living life on easy mode along with the desire to have companionship like they do is stopping me from coping effectively. How do I stop feeling lonely when no one wants me around?

I work with this girl who seems to greet me warmly, make eye contact in an interesting almost flirty way and she seeks out conversations with me, which is whatever, but my manager was talking to me and she butts in and was like “I want [anon]’s attention” which struck me as very bold and unusual. We went for lunch too and she must’ve been looking at me because she observed out loud that I’d broken my rule of not starting for everyone’s food came, on the same day I caught her looking at me across the table and she was also looking back and smiling and asking questions when she was walking back from restaurant too. She also has been acting kind of different now that I showed up to a work event with a female friend. She seemed weirdly subdued when that happened. But another bombshell? She already has a partner What do you guys make of this?

This is probably the worst place ever to ask this, but does anybody have any tips whatsoever on how to go out and do things with people sober? Its literally impossible, i have audhd and i find myself so unbarable sober, to the point where ive distanced myself from everyone possible, i dont do school nor do i do anything and literalky everyone i know has no problem with this. No matter how much i want to hang out with people my social battery literally lasts 10 minutes unless im drunk ect.

I keep having these thoughts lately. It's a very cunning thought pattern. It leads to the path of conformity and safety, it's all planned out already. A 4-year long path, but it can lead me to an easy and rich life. It's telling me to go study for a banking degree, then work for a renowned bank, learn Chinese and ultimately move out to Singapore and work there for that same bank. That's the golden path that's been presented to me by my subconscious, a result of years of indoctrination to the system. Plus I kinda think bankers are cool. I got those same creeping thoughts last year too. When I acted upon them, I was deeply unhappy and felt trapped, even though I got more money. I did some freelance bookkeeping work and I hated it. It was fucking boring and anyone else can do it. But when I pursue my dreams, I feel amazing. But then then this stupid devilish voice keeps whispering to me to go back to a predictable and socially-acceptable path. What should I do? How can I kill off this voice inside of me? Why do I still care about what society or the tribe thinks? I live alone, barely talk to my original family anymore. Now it's even using the excuse of age, that I'm running out of time. I guess I should just ignore it and not act upon that voice? Please help.

I personally have no interest in Islam or any of the other Abrahamic religions and consider myself somewhat of a deist. One of my closest female friends is in a similar degree program as myself and is a fairly liberal (almost non-practicing) Muslim. She has rather favorable views on homosexuality for being a Muslim and follows very few of the dietary restrictions, including restrictions on alcohol. Despite all of that, she is unwilling to marry (let alone have sex with) a non-muslim. If we wanted to have any kind of relationship, I would need to convert, or at least pretend very very well to have converted. I personally would consider her to be an absolute steal. She works out very regularly, she is an honor roll student in an exceptionally challenging program, and is overall an extremely good person. I forget where she is from but she is a european passing arab. But is all of that worth faking converting? I know this is probably so fucking retarded, but I'm just getting so sick and tired of being lonely or in relationships that dont work.

I'm doing everything I can for my little brother but we come from a broken and dysfunctional home with a manic mother and a passive father who hate each other. These stupid fucks actually thought having a kid later in life was a good idea. I warned them that they couldn't do it and who would raise him when I start working for real - that it would impede our lives. And in the long run , I was right. I've begun working and they are literally shitting bricks. I feel so bad for the kid, he's just a tablet / ipad kid at home and hardly has any real friends in elementary due to his speech challenges. I am almost 80% certain this kid will suicide and I hate the fact that foresight is one of my best skills. I hate feeling I might be right about that. What the hell can I do differently as his older brother to help him? I shower him with affection and care but I'm always working, so im not always there. I'm trying to study his condition but its hard to apply certain ideas with parents who are antagonist to change. If you were one of these kids , what would u do suggest I do? I just want to die cause of how unmovable the situation feels. But I'm the only one with agency to change anything in this situation.

I just bought a vape and threw it out when I got home. I havent smoked in like 4 years. I was just so depressed I felt like I needed any sort of control. Should I take it out of the garbage or leave it there

I'm a man in my early 30s, and I've recently started taking better care of myself. After spending a couple of years in the same dead-end job, I'm finally transitioning into a better-paying role. My ex broke up with me a couple of years ago, so I initially tried to meet as many women as possible. I failed miserably, so I eventually focused my attention on myself, including fitness, fashion, grooming, and all that kind of faggotry you get into when you're single, and no woman wants to talk to you. Lately, I've become less interested in dating. I've even started visiting restaurants alone and striking up conversations simply because I enjoy meeting people. That's how I met this 22-year-old woman working at a small restaurant. I initially thought she was around 28, and I was genuinely impressed to discover that she owns it along with another one. She's extremely fit, although her face isn't particularly attractive, if you know what I mean. A bit of a butterface. Anyways, I found myself imagining that she could potentially become my next partner, so I asked her out. We ended up kissing in the car. However, after exchanging a few messages, she made it clear that she wasn't interested in anything long-term. Fair enough. I wasn't particularly bothered, and we agreed to remain friends. Recently, she mentioned needing a small $400 loan to cover some small business expenses. She NEVER actually asked me for money, but I offered, and she accepted. While discussing repayment, I jokingly suggested she could pay me back with food, the money itself, or an entire day of sex. Her response? "Okay, anon, let's fuck and everyone's happy." Now I'm a little conflicted. I believe she's being genuine, but there's something strange about knowing she's coming downtown this Monday so we can sleep together. I'll also have to pay for the hotel, although that's not a financial concern. So, what the hell have I gotten myself into? What's your take, and what should I do?

I actually know roughly when the nuclear war will start. I have evidence to prove it. The problem is that I haven't talked to another person for 5 years. There is no way for me to warn anyone. I am in the process of selling everything so I can get to the fallout free latitude. My problem is that I need a few White or Asian people so we can survive without issues. Where can I find 5 people who aren't retarded? We will have to go to Asia within 6 months. The northern hemisphere will be radioactive. The war will probably start in 2027. The US leadership is trying to get alibi as we speak. The idea is to force Europe to fight Russia - this will go nuclear. I will have 1 million after I have sold my stuff. You also need to have liquidity. We're going to have to buy survival stuff. I already know where to go. Everyone who isn't where we will go will literally die. Low grade evidence that isn't political shows how the US is trying to strangle its strategic adversaries https://worldbeyondwar.org/military-empires/?operatingcountry=unitedstates

>Got stood up by friends who found a party to go >been stood up by women before but the first time by friends >took a night drive in some spooky areas while listening to noir jazz >”I drive” How are you spending your lonely Halloween anons?

im not gonna act like ik everyone im 20 and i want the older generation to enlighten me, but i grew up thinking that men were abusers, women were oppressed yada yada now it sounds like women got all men in a chokehold, how come these animals (not all of them) has found a way to take control back? are the men in power "chads" letting this happen so they can reclaim power from weak avg normies like me and you? i cant really think of anything that men oppress women in anymore? you open then news and just get news of men getting raped in different ways everyday

I made a friend in a game; we clicked, and I really liked him. He’s the kind of person you meet and think, “I want to be friends with him no matter what.” He has such a radiant energy that it’s impossible not to like him. A few months after meeting him, he told me in a text: “I could edit one of your messages to make it look like you said something bad, then spread it around.” My mind went blank. Could someone really be that cruel? I hadn’t done anything to him; I’d always supported him during the time we spent together on social media and in games. I felt like I should walk away, but I didn’t. Why? Because I like my solitude, but I like it even more when he’s there. I’ve gotten used to his presence, and that’s the problem. When we don’t talk, I feel like something’s missing—as if I’m incomplete without him. I talked to him about it; I told him it was wrong, but he played dumb, acting like he didn’t know what I was talking about. And, honestly, the problem is definitely me. No one forced me to depend on him; I put myself in that situation all on my own. I had planned to write him a letter for New Year’s and cut ties with him, but I can’t bring myself to do it. I’m afraid of leaving him alone, but I’m also afraid he’ll follow through on what he said in that text message. I’m not afraid of being exposed, but rather that he’ll manipulate others’ perception of me with a fake screenshot. But I have no proof of what he said and no way to defend myself. And even so, I can’t bring myself to hate him—or myself—it just doesn’t come naturally to me. If you were in my shoes, what would you do?

Curious about the circumstances of a legal case This guy pictured here and articles linked below was involved in some grooming scandal 764 shit and was charged with serious crimes. However he was able to with a public defender (though I suspect he did most of the work himself) challenging the evidence being displayed by showing the feds raided his home 7 minutes before a warrant was signed and also may have gone overboard with their look into his digital history. His hearing has been delayed so I was wondering what his chances of winning both his motion and hearing are. https://www.washingtonexaminer.com/news/crime/4739159/child-porn-suspect-linked-terrorists-might-go-free-alleged-fbi-mistakes/?srsltid=AYCX9vId5De9eEDbc6qCfLZwvKXhM3ubtTuTbKa291FQjyXGneKf-Cpw

i feel so behind in my life as a 23 year old in college around teenagers. bros does it ever get better

https://youtu.be/fyaI1cIPHtU

Hola,busco ayuda para poder juntar a dos personas,de forma que una de esas dos personas acepte y corresponda los sentimientos de la otra persona,recalcó que todo será a 3ras personas, quiero ver si hay (disculpen mi ignorancia) si haya algun ritual o digamos palabras o invocación que me ayude a esto?

How can I fix my teeth? It’s crooked and crowded and stinks. The honeys don’t care. I can pull them easy. I sleep with a new one every day. Yo boy has a big roster. But my fucked up teeth be my insecurity.

I want to transition, here's the problem. 1. Having Future children would be difficult 2. Might be a Hon (the biggest one) 3. Stay stealth for all my life How do I overcome these fears?

im getting so hopeless about generating a force by myself in order to change. i tried to do different things in a different way, but i feel i need something that i cannot make up by myself. there is no shortage of self-help videos and books and gurus in their podcasts, each for a specific ailment, but i need people. And i cannot find them. Its like I need a certain kind of love and care or trust, a place where i am challenged enough to stand up by myself and still be supported. I dont know where to find it. Church is too systemic and closed off, and my friends are just those, but not the place, if that makes sense. Does anybody know what i am trying to understand? When i feel desired or needed I feel alive. But not any kind of being useful makes sense to me. Not at all. Do you know what i mean? Maybe you have an idea what its about? i feel if i dont find it, i cannot live. Also, its my bday. wish me good luck.

I have a unique sensitivity to electronic screens. Content is irrelevant, my mind lights up on fire and I can barely breathe from panic, migraines and vision impairment. Is there any way to go back to using screens? Or should i continue my screen free life.

Hi /adv/ this is gonna be a long sereis of posts but I want some real advice from normal people instead of a therapist using chatGPT. I just want some advice for anyone actualy willing to read thru this shit. Mostly the emtional issues rarther than the sleep issues which seam to be treatment resistant. tl;dr I have a bunch of issues. A Sleep-wake disorder, (Non-24), Depression, Anxiaty, & Emotional issues, possible ADHD, am a tranny (but this feels moslty no relevent) compared to the other issues. I also have some past """trauma""" that I will dump after the last. I have two documents that I'm gonna copy paste. The first going over the issues summerized above, and the second going over some shit that happened to be in the past that feels like it impacts the former. So "Purpose of this Document This document is a comprehensive medical self-report designed to provide an in-depth, factual overview of my daily health and functionality. It is intended as a primary explanatory resource for medical professionals, tribunal panel members, and government caseworkers. The information presented represents my lived experience, recorded as honestly and accurately as possible.

I recently read that living is different from surviving. Many people spend their entire lives just struggling to stay alive, living in a miserable existence and even wanting to kill themselves in the process. So, what do you consider to be the reason for living? What do you do that gives your life some meaning, even for just a few moments, enough to make you forget your problems and question whether you should be here?

I'm 24 years old, graduate STEM student. 180cm, 165 lbs. I started seeing escorts about half a year ago. Fun, novelty, curious, and of course overwhelming lust. I'd seen about half a dozen, each just once. Then I saw another one. Let's call her J. Well, the long story short is that from the first we clicked extremely well, on all levels. Sexually, of course, but also beyond that; our personalities just meshed really well. So I started seeing her weekly. Really by the 1st session something felt very different. By the 2nd and 3rd session her behavior had changed quite a lot and slipped well into the "unprofessional" (inviting me out for example). By the 5th, it was basically clear as day that she had feelings for me. And by the 6th and final session, we basically spent 4 hours talking, and we spilled our hearts out and she told me she doesn't want to see me in this context again; she doesn't and doesn't want to see me as a bank. She said she understands I may not be looking for a relationship with her, but that she wants what we have to exist naturally outside of the dynamic. Though towards the end and 1-2 shared bottles of wine later, she was telling me "I don't want to just be your friend", while digging her head in my chest. And I'm a rizzless autistic chud, but I also more or less affirmed that obviously I liked her far more than the context can hold, and that I genuinely really care for her, all without fully confessing and retaining plausible deniability. I think I have dismissive avoidant tendencies, so emotional vulnerability is very very difficult for me, and so I thought the escort context would keep me safe. And she's caught on to all of that, she's smart and thoughtful, she said she knows my way of showing affection is not with words, but with quality time where I'm fully present.

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What is /htgwg/? How to Get Women General is by anons, for anons, about the modern dating landscape. So bring all of your questions about dating here. Some anons on this site actually get partners and laid, and some of them even want to help. If you're trying to meet and date people, then this is the place to ask questions, seek advice, and share experiences. We know how hard it can be. We got you bro. >What is /htgwg/ not? These threads are NOT for whining, moping, incels, femlcels, MGTOW, hopelessness, pinkpillers or demoralization. We're all aware that meeting and dating people is hard today, and even harder for some, but /htdg/ is for trying to overcome the challenges. IGNORE the posters who complain, give up, or insist there's nothing they can do. This site has other boards and threads that they can pollute. BE SMART: Spot the bait, don't reply, and DON'T WASTE TIME ARGUING WITH THEM! >How to ask for advice Context is important: be more specific than "I got ghosted, why?" We can't help if we don't know the situation, so try to provide as much (useful) info as possible ("I was at the bar, someone was checking me out..."). What's your relationship with them? How long have you known them? Any conversation screenshots? Etc... Don't forget to ask an actual question. >Resources and Books https://wingman.live/ (AI dating coach) https://www.youtube.com/@HealthyGamerGG https://www.youtube.com/@YourWingmam https://pdfcoffee.com/318797392-mark-manson-models-2016pdf-4-pdf-free.html https://archive.org/details/robert-glover-no-more-mr-nice-guy-id-353324692-size-612 https://www.doctornerdlove.com/blog/ https://pastebin.com/7U5Sdhwq (embed) (Leykis 101) https://www.fantasticanachronism.com/p/how-to-be-good-at-dating REMEMBER: It's good to read and prepare, but don't overdo it. Get off this site: go learn and build up your social skills by meeting actual people in the real world. Previous: >>35025244

I have an aversion or fear of those who earn $100k a year. There's something about having that level of economic power and money that makes me question their motivations. I would act very different if I had that level of income. I also have no idea how they got into these positions. I found out cops in my Province (Ontario) make $100k a year unless they're a rookie. Now I'm terrified of police and have realized I wouldn't even call them if somoene broke into my apartment because I can't even talk to someone earning six figures. What do I do? I would see a psychologist but not a therapist since I believe therapists (medically licensed) make six figures.

I live in a conservative islamic community and some spastics are spreading rumours i am gay and whatever. The trigger is that I dont leave the house at night so i'am 'not a man' but i am just introverted and tired socially. Its been 2 years and i stopped caring, and people are skeptical now but i feel i should intervene. Should i record some slanderers and have them prosecuted? What if they flip it into malicious recording charge?

My mom has this weird thing where anytime I try to do anything, she argues and debatebros with me on why I can't do it, even things like getting some food >Go to cook some food >NOOOO ANON YOU CANT COOK THAT >Ok what do I cook? >I DONT KNOWWWWWWW ANON >So I try to get some other foods >NOOOOOOOOO! Anon we're going to eat that tomorrow! Finally she tells me what I'm allowed to eat >NOOOOO ANON You can't use that pan! No not that pan no no no! >"So what pan can I use?" >I DONT KNOOWWWWWW >I reach for a glass >NOOOOO anon not that glass! I decide to go out to buy some more food because apparently we're not allowed to eat anything but then my mom yells at that >NOOOOOOO ANON Don't go out! We have food here! >Try to leave anyway >She blocks the door and says I need to change before I go out >NOT THAT SHIRT ANON >So what shirt? >I DONT KNOOWWWWWw She just says I can't do something, gives no alternatives, and argues. It's been 3 hours since this encounter and I still haven't eaten

i never cared, or shown that i cared, about my gender. i know its some stupid social construct that really shouldn't affect me at all, but more recently i have been feeling gender dysphoric. i have this problem where i feel good when people accuse me of being a transgirl or transboy and point out the signs that show my assigned gender, even if theyre wrong. there is nothing more gender affirming than being referred to the wrong gender, even though i dont know my "right" gender. i cant tell if i am feeling gender euphoria or just pleasure. i would not like to reduce my gender identity to a fetish. i would prefer if people only referred to me by my name, but it doesn't feel the same as when people misgender me based on their assumptions on what kind of trans i am.

People who finally got on ADHD meds in adulthood, what was your experience like?

All week leading up to it I was excited, I had a costume ready. started feeling a little sick on thursday but felt better yesterday afternoon. I didnt hear back from anyone I texted and I made a decision to stay in. I was okay with it until all the photos started showing up today of all my friends at a party together and now I feel angry and sad I didnt go. I know this is stupid way to feel but this happens often, whats a good method to get over these feelings so I dont keep feeling like this

I have spent years with terrible self-esteem. Even though I’ve had partners—both online and in real life—I have never felt good about myself. Body dysmorphia is killing me, and I don’t know what to do anymore. I want to get better, but I barely have the strength to even take a shower. I need help. Srr for my bad english, I´m not native speaker.

What is the problem with today's society? 1. I see people treating animals like children, taking them to the mall in bags, buying premium food, going to renowned veterinarians, and buying pet-focused products. Animals are just animals they don't deserve any protection or help. Animals that deserve that are cows, oxen, pigs, chickens, and fish, since they are the ones who feed us. 2. People who believe that politicians will help them in some way (while society is culturally individualistic and despises those who try improve or act like a normal citizen). 3. Every type of human contact nowadays comes with 300 kinds of warnings: either they'll ask me for money, verbally attack me, or start some crazy conversation that I'll try to deflect to get away unscathed. 4. A culture of influencers who like to be stupid and live only for frivolity and luxury; I've never seen a streamer at the top of the food chain try to convey anything to the public beyond (look at the new Lamborghini I bought). 5. Women don't want any kind of relationship anymore, and when you do get one, it's always one problem after another, nothing like the movies show. I live with two women, and neither of them has the courage to make juice while I work all day. And I've heard from colleagues that they spend a fortune on women, only for them to say: Thank you, goodbye. 6. And in the end, everything is very generic, bland, and it doesn't even seem worth being a millionaire like it used to be. Entertainment is terrible; nothing useful comes out of Hollywood or any production company these days. The niches that existed before have been obliterated by YouTubers and ordinary people. Food today doesn't taste the same as it used to because of deflation, globalization harming tourism and local culture, the internet full of bots and content copied or generated by AI just to earn a few cents, various conspiracy theories becoming reality, and so many other irrelevant issues it's too much bad news 24 hours a day

I'm genuinely confused, how should you comfort someone who's pretty sad? - on call or physically? I've got a couple friends who vent to me about their problems. I truly wanna solve em but alas- I just go silent. Don't know what to say after it. It's not like I judge em or anything but I can't seem to talk to em much after their confession/ venting. I don't want them to think that I've completely left them but want them to spend time with themselves too.

When my daughter turned 18 she blew up on social media. She had a huge following, she was an influencer. She didn't even go to college because she was doing so well as an influencer. I was proud of her because she is independent and makes money when most people her age are going into debt for a useless degree. She got contracted to work in Dubai. She said she was just doing hostess work, greeting wealthy people at restaurants, and in ads for the Qatari airlines. I just heard report that she's being used as a "human toilet". Men in Dubai are hiring her to take shits on her and have her basque in the shit. She is denying it but started crying when I pressed her. She is refusing to come back because she says she's making so much money. What do I do?

hey there sweetcheeks (licks you like halloween candy) edition last time: >>35052128

I really loved that person and I was willing to give a lot of understanding, care, love and would even excuse her from her bad behaviors but I had to go because she did not respect my boundary after giving her a second chance, it was a very hard decision. While I did maintain my self-respect. I removed the pictures and blocked her everywhere. Entire experience is still crushing me because I hold onto the idea of what could have been, also I haven't had anyone in like two years and this was very unexpected and was filled with a lot of hope.

I told my parents a while ago that I *might* graduate in September 2027 rather than June 2027 due to having to juggle 30 h weeks at an R&D department while finishing my Mechanical Engineering degree. Working in R&D has been very enriching for me, but it also drains a lot of my mental resources, because it is, after all, an intellectual job. And some days I don't have the energy to study after work. My mom keeps telling me that under no circumstances should I postpone my diploma defense until September (she thinks I'll postpone it indefinitely), and my dad told me I've "already wasted my life", which hurt (I started Mechanical Engineering at 25 after dropping out of med school at 22). I'm a top student btw, despite the heavy workload. Today, my parents called me again and when I told them I was studying (yet again), my mom simply let out a sarcastic "uh huh", as if I wasn't applying myself... The workload I'm taking on is genuinely heavy, yet my parents think I'm not doing enough. Then again, neither of them has performed such a feat, so I guess they'll never understand. It's just that I'm doing all this while living away from my hometown. I don't really have much free time these days, I don't go out much, I'm lonely, and I just need some encouragement. Not being told that I'm not good enough...

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PS: Freshmen How to manage uni deadlines and hobbies? used to love cooking, hittin the gym, readin books but it feels pretty depressing w/o em. Proctrastination and shit's helpin me dig my own my own grave. Can't play tennis with my friends, completely detaching from the curriculum and somehow along with all of this- I'm behind deadlines too. Like bruh I thought I could cover all the extra shit for class on the weekends n now I gotta complete 3 assignments asap too. Somehow, one of friends is also pretty smart who seems to know about everything there's to know and I feel I'm fallin behind. Tik Tok's becomin a regular part of my life

I’m getting ready to divorce my wife. Our son is 11 months old and since he was born our marriage started to fade. We have less and less in common and argue more and more. Before our son was born our relationship was close to perfection but now she’s like a stranger to me. We don’t have sex, we don’t spend time together, we barely talk to each other. She doesn’t care about her looks anymore and the nagging is never ending. AITA for wanting the divorce? I don’t think any of us is considering saving this marriage.

I have a complete inability to get myself to do anything. I'm 20 and autistic and even though I'm interested in lots of things and have hobbies which I want to get good at and invest my time into, I just can't get myself to sit down and do it. I spend most of my days doing other random, time wasting bullshit like watching youtube or playing games I don't even like. It's been like this for years and the longer it goes on, the more hopeless I feel

What's the most devious way to take revenge on someone? I've considered putting their number on a spam list but that's too lame.

Both me and my girlfriend are open to each other about being hypersexual, however I'm not sure how hypersexual she thinks I really am. It is normal for me to masturbate anywhere from 1 to 3 times a day, even on days when we have sex, and when we have sex 30 minutes for us is considered relatively short. Masturbation does not affect my libido/performance in bed unless I'm jerking off half a dozen times a day. Today we had a discussion where she reiterated that if I needed some kind of sexual release then she herself also probably needs it as well and specifically asked me to come to her for this purpose. What she does not know, despite me having previously explain this to her, is that if I were to put 100% of my sexual energy towards her, she would be in near constant pain. Yes, we use lube. This results in a situation where we are physically unable to have sex and are simultaneously physically unable to continue having sex. She openly refuses to masturbate on her own, and does not like when I masturbate despite having previously told me that she is completely fine if I do. Her opinion on this seems to change every few months. I know this is probably screaming all kinds of unhealthy but I have no interest in trying to lower/control my libido, and simply talking this over with her has not gotten through to her so far.

Have you experienced acute trauma before? If so, what were your experiences? How did you deal with it/seek help? I witnessed the death of a valued coworker recently and it caused me to experience acute trauma. It deeply impacted many other people as well.

assuming i'm not in my 20s anymore, i have a lot of work, a lot of responsibilities, and a long-term relationship with a genuinely good person, should i leave imageboards and nsfw content in general behind, and purge any porn and other stupid shit i have in my bookmarks? i've been lurking for almost two decades now, so i might subconsciously put imageboards on a pedestal, even though i probably just scroll them out of habit, and they might be affecting me negatively in ways i don't even notice + maintaining a parallel browsing environment doesn't feel healthy and already caused some completely unnecessary friction in the relationship. tl;dr should I get rid of my nsfw browsing habits I built as a teenager/young adult?

I was watching the new Spiderman and sometimes I like to talk or ask questions to my friend during the movie. Where I'm from in Arkansas people talk in movies theatres but now I'm living in New England for work and people get all pissy about that. The staff said i can't talk during the movie because people were complaining and I basically just said I have my free speech. Then they told me to whisper if i was going to say anything but then i said my friend won't really be able to hear me. Eventually they came back and asked me to leave. I refused at first but they threatened to call the cops. They offered no refund even though I only say like 40 minutes of it. Can I sue them or something?

How do I get a relationship like this?

It’s been some time since I’ve posted here. I really thought I could put this behind me after redirecting my attention and thoughts to more fruitful endeavors and even changing my environment in certain online spaces. My biggest day-to-day problem, though, is how much these feelings and thoughts wax and wane. In some circumstances they even morph into different feelings or impulses that make me begin to soften to the idea of entertaining, or even engaging with, this mindset. It’s extremely difficult because the things that trigger me are all around me, and my own appearance doesn’t help the situation either. I’ve learned throughout the years that these feelings are sexually attached or mainly driven by my libido, it seems. I experienced what can best be described as “gender dysphoria,” for lack of a better term. These episodes happened in waves and intensified as the years progressed. It occurred three times and lasted anywhere from minutes to eventually months. The onset was instantaneous, and I’ve never experienced or felt anything like it before in my life. It caused me to step back, reflect, and research the phenomenon. That’s when I came across these transgender feelings and dysphoria and all this other made-up nonsense. I grew up normal in high school. I was popular, am handsome, worked out for four years, am tall, and have a good family for the most part. So I have no idea where or why these feelings exist in my life. I am also religious and have a deep-rooted relationship with God.

Over almost the whole month of October I've been obsessing over religion and have givenup on having fun and have lost all of my sex drive thinking I'm going to go to hell (its like a switch in my head clicked). Its been really tiresome for me mentally, and I am feeling broken and want to stop thinking about it all together at this point. Please tell me how to cope over religion, and to go back to living a normal life so I can stop stressing about it, because I feel like I'm turning into a literal schizo when I engage in religion. Thank You. >My Backstory: Growingup I loved Jesus Christ but wasn't super religious and just lived my life, but eventually started dabbling into other stuff as I began losing faith, but then later dropped that stuff and came back to the faith stronger than ever, but now I started to feel another shift and I actually started reading into the Bible and its origins more, thinking there was tons of evidence for Jesus Christ but to my shock I found out that the only evidence was Josephus who was born 7yrs after Jesus's death...It also shocked me to learn that The Gospels were discovered 40-60 years after Jesus's death, and that no one really knows who wrote them, and I am supposed to believe all of this despite the lack of evidence and all of the contradictions and so on, or I will go to hell and burn there for all of eternity (hell isnt even eternal when you read about its origins). I also just want to say that I have nothing against Jesus Christ himself.

>be me(28) >On Facebook dating >See this really cute alt chick(27) >Hit her up >She responds back >Funny and easy to talk to but lives in texas while I'm in the mid south >We have a lot in common >I get her number and Snapchat >We talk more for a few weeks >She REALLY likes to talk > Works cause I like to listen >Eventually find out she has a bf >Guys 42 >I think it's pretty weird she has a bf but is on fb dating and still likes talking to me even text me while she's over her bfs place while he's in the same room I'm a pretty dense guy what should I do?what kind of signals is she sending here.

We were at a party and she was performatively touching another guy’s foot in front of me. We live abroad and I don’t have anywhere else to live but with her. How do I confront her?

I have one son, he's 24 years old and he's apparently been homeless for the past few months. He has been couchsurfing while looking for jobs but spends nights on the street or in a local park. I always wanted to have grandkids and a legacy since I don't like the feeling of growing old and dying with nothing, but I'm starting to see how that's more likely. I don't see how he'll have a family of his own when he's homeless. What do i do?

I realized I am kinda just boring to be around. I don't drink, I don't smoke weed, I don't go clubbing/party, I know some sports because i like/played baseball but that's about it. I can hold a conversation if needed but it's not something i am really good at if i continue. I have friends but they are similar to me, but in normal conversation wit co-workers i just kinda freeze and or can't relate since they do all of what i mentioned. What can i do to fix this?

My thumb of rule is that I try to ask the same woman out 3 times at most, if I get the same excuse style as an answer with no concrete rescheduling plan, my efforts end here. In reality I tend to give up by the 2nd try, the 3rd try happens if I think the extra humiliation ritual could be worth given the girl's value, after some time has passed. Thing is, I realized this may also be depended on how strong is the link you have with the girl. It is easier to apply this rule if you barely know her and you are trying to have a proper first meet up, harder instead if it is a friend you hang out in group often and you are trying to escalate. The context that made me prompt this is that I have this girl on my friend group who I know for more than 1 year and I recently tried to get a date with her. Every time we go out she's very receptacle and touchy with me, so I understood that as signaling from her (which was even acknowledged by other friends). I already tried to text her 3 times at different timeframes for hanging out, but she always takes hours to answer, then say she can't because of something, and end with a vague 'maybe next time'. In other words, Im understanding she's not willing to do the extra mile. But still, when we hang out in group, she sticks with the same warm behavior as always. I said to myself that I already gave up and I won't try any further, but maybe there is something that I'm not reading right? So far my mindset is that I will keep the door open in the case something 'spontaneous' happen, but Im finding the whole thing blurred to read. Perhaps I got friendzoned too much?

Is it wrong for me to send provocative photos to my partner? I don’t distrust him, but the truth is I only do it because it makes me feel better to sexualize myself.

There's some old hag in the local supermarket that possess me off. She doesn't greet me or answer when i greet her, and she just kinda throws the bills my way instead of handing them to me. Nowadays I don't greet her either, just go "two bags", take my stuff and leave without saying bye. Should I force her to hand me my change properly by holding up the line until she does? She's starting to really piss me off. Everyone else is normal and polite to me, as I am to them.

I am 27 years old and I live in the Middle East. I am still a virgin. Was always introverted, shy, and was diagnosed with some form of autism in one consultation with a psychiatrist as a teen. My social skills are 0 and I literally go to uni alone (yes, I am still a uni student, 1 year left to graduate). I have quirks such as obsession with words, collocations, grammar, and pronunciation. So, you'll find me looking up words in dictionaries, making Anki flashcards, for both Arabic and English. It's a silly quirk, but it means a lot to me. It would probably turn women off. What to do? I want to ascend one day and have a son and daughter of my own but I am scared that I might literally be an incel.

How do you get over the one that got away?

My parents found my heroin stash and now they are mad at me and won’t give my heroin back. They accused me of stealing from them to buy heroin and they are right but they can’t know that. It’s not fair. I wouldn’t be doing heroin in the first place if they put any sort of effort into giving me a good life.

You must be the words biggest fucking loser to be a 4chan mod.

Every weekend I hang out with my group of friends and one of them sometimes belittles me and calls me a retard and a dumbass a lot but he says he is worried about me? There have been multiple times where he has been into my mom's house (I live with her) and tells her about embarrassing private things I have told my friend who I thought were going to stay private and saying out of context things to make me look bad or something that I am not. These people are the first ones I have made friends with after a life of solitude. Should I just cut them out of my life? Or do I give them a second chance? I have been thinking of getting another phone number and never telling anyone about it except for family

For context, I live in the United States. I landed at an airport earlier today, as soon as I was landing my Dad called me and I picked up the phone. I started talking to him in a sorta hushed voice (he was picking me up from the airport). The guy next to me then started mimicking what I was saying over the phone. For instance I said something like “oh, my flight is delayed, I’m calling the cops” and then he would, pretending to be talking into his phone “oh, my life sucks, and I like complaining”. After he did the twice turned to him, I turned to him and I said “do you have a fucking problem?” He then said “don’t touch me, I’ll call the cops on you.” I just laughed and continued talking on the phone. He stopped the mimicking. I’m just worried this weirdo is going to actually go the airport cops or the flight attendants and make up a false accusation. I had no issues getting off the plane and he just stayed in his seat while I left. Am I being paranoid?

due to repeated disappointments in my personal life it feels like nobody around me is real. there is no way that especially with other females, that *this* large of a chunk of the population genuinely is stuck like glue to one side of the political compass and can't affirm factual information over their own ego, hold empathy or understand other perspectives, and self regulate their own relationship with their biology mind +nature. I have lost all faith in society and have no care for participating in it. I feel like the only one who wants to nourish my mind and be creative and not take drugs. (or goyslop myself with SSRIs to be obedient to others) im not even smart or anything, hell i even barely passed the captcha, but i have very strong values and mayhaps be a hopeless romantic. does anyone else feel non conformist like this? uh how to stop dooming so much about my differences

>be me >wagecuck >finish up working an entire shift outside in the rain >lock my keys in my car as I’m getting ready to leave >eventually big tiddie Latina stops to help me >eventually getting to making small talk >mentions that she’s seeing someone (who lives in another state) >says he’s useless >doesn’t call him her boyfriend >curious.png >eventually get her number and exchange some memes before I leave >text her the next day asking if she knew any good spots for a Halloween party >she texts back right away telling me her plans saying that I’m welcome to join her >tell her my own plans and tell her that I’m gonna take a rain check on her plans to go club hopping because of prior commitments >text her today and ask her if she wanted to hang out sometime soon >she asks what I wanted to do >get a sense of her usual schedule and compare it to my own >haven’t responded back with any concrete plans Am I a cretin for thinking that she wants to hookup?

I want to have sex with my boyfriend, but I’m too insecure and shy.

This board is constantly talking about “how do I get this girl” and shit and I’m gonna keep it real. Be a flawed, selfish, and manipulative person. I was someone formerly diagnosed with ASPD. I don’t think I meet criteria anymore. I got tired of being where I was as a piece of shit taking advantage of everyone and I genuinely had no problem with getting a girlfriend or occasional fling. They never stayed though, and a lot of other social shit I was unhappy with so I seeked change. The issue is after therapy, for an entire year I had an extreme drought of girls by trying to be genuine, authentic, honest, and a truly deep romantic of pouring my heart out to my loves. They’ve never left quicker in my life. I was met repeatedly with disgust, aversion, ghosting, and just quick change ups to “I’d prefer we were friends.”! This year I finally gave up. I’m still prosocial in every other way in life, but with women I have returned to being a piece of shit and they all just clamor for my false behaviors of being an avoidant, abusive, deceptive, manipulative asshole. I have multiple girls (situationships and talking stages) but everytime I tried having only one they always lost interest and hated my romantic gestures and wholesome interests. It hurts me now to have to hide it and not be my real self. I used to be a misanthrope. Now I’m just misogynistic and I really, really, really don’t want to be because I love beautiful women. Or I thought I did. I’m not a Chad but I’m not ugly either so I’ve had failings before but never held it against them until I learned that prosocial behavior disgusts them. Women say they wonder where good men are but genuinely encourage men to be more evil or capable of evil so we can be for them and reward it. Just go study manipulation tactics. I’m sorry to any good hearted men out there who can’t do this. I’ve enough empathy now to feel bad for you and those of my friends who are just kind hearted men.

How can I get over the fact that I am not attractive enough for busty girls?