We were at a party and she was performatively touching another guy’s foot in front of me.We live abroad and I don’t have anywhere else to live but with her.How do I confront her?
You don't.You find another place to live, or move back to your home country.Be as quiet about it as possible.Quietly exit the "relationship" cause it's already over if she's flirting with other guys.
OP:She was making fun of me at the party, laughing with everyone at me. We’re leaving, she says: bring me my purse.As soon as we leave, she starts crying and saying: I love you, I sacrifice so much for you. Are you sure I shouldn’t confront her at home?This sort of behavior has a well-fitting description
OP:She’s now blaming me because she says I’m always texting someone and bringing up a female friend I talk to.Says she can’t trust me.The audacityA (male) friend says: show her that you’re talking to me But I’m not going to comply with her requests, she wants me to be defensive so that I don’t attack her
Confront her about what? She won't change her attitude for you, so quit your fantasies about fixing her.Time to let go, OP. Plan your escape route and get outta there.Or play along and tolerate her bs until you graduate, find a job, and move out.
OP:Saying that her behavior was cringe. At least that will limit this sort of behavior while I’m finding a new place.And I’ll say that playing the victim doesn’t work, I know what she’s doing
OP:I’m just trying to figure out if it’s a test that I should have passed (stopping her from flirting with the other guy) or she’s just gaslighting me into leaving.
Since your getting shit advice I’ll just tell you something real. She basically doesn’t see you as a man anymore and is losing attraction for you. You need to start putting up boundaries. That doesn’t mean “confronting her”, that is the worst possible thing you could do and it will kill any chances of salvaging things. You need to take the lead back in your relationship. Stop listening to her or letting her control you as much. She is fucking around with other guys in front of you to see how you will react. Somehow show her you are the man again and she will fall in line. And of course that can mean leaving her if she is going to disrespect you. If she senses you WONT LEAVE and you will just like tolerate disrespect she will hate you. Paradoxically if she senses you will leave her she may fall in line when she sees you have boundaries. Should make sense
