Both me and my girlfriend are open to each other about being hypersexual, however I'm not sure how hypersexual she thinks I really am. It is normal for me to masturbate anywhere from 1 to 3 times a day, even on days when we have sex, and when we have sex 30 minutes for us is considered relatively short. Masturbation does not affect my libido/performance in bed unless I'm jerking off half a dozen times a day. Today we had a discussion where she reiterated that if I needed some kind of sexual release then she herself also probably needs it as well and specifically asked me to come to her for this purpose. What she does not know, despite me having previously explain this to her, is that if I were to put 100% of my sexual energy towards her, she would be in near constant pain. Yes, we use lube. This results in a situation where we are physically unable to have sex and are simultaneously physically unable to continue having sex. She openly refuses to masturbate on her own, and does not like when I masturbate despite having previously told me that she is completely fine if I do. Her opinion on this seems to change every few months. I know this is probably screaming all kinds of unhealthy but I have no interest in trying to lower/control my libido, and simply talking this over with her has not gotten through to her so far.
>>35056319You may not realize it, but you're acting like an overly literal autistic fool. It's not all-or-nothing. She wants more attention to you, so simply just give her more instead of inventing excuses not to.When you have conversations about sex be flirty and talk dirty instead of taking it so seriously and literally. "Yeah girl, lets f* right now. I never get tired of f*ing you." Instead of "explaining". Just say something to make her feel sexy don't approach it with such a dry attitude.
>>35056319Buddy. Blow jobs were invented for a reason.
>>35056341>She wants more attention to you, so simply just give her more instead of inventing excuses not to.I get this, and I give her a good amount of attention, but of course I could give her more. I'm still not sure what to really do.
>>35056389>I give her a good amount of attention, but of course I could give her more. I'm still not sure what to really do.Give her more attention.
>>35056719As I have mentioned I can give her as much attention as she can physically handle to the point of hurting her. Despite this, there is still something wrong.
>>35056723Just masterbate for her? Make her a part of it. If she can't take more penetration then eat her out or cuddle with her as she gives you a wank
>>35056845We do this from time to time, the issue is that she almost exclusively enjoys penetration as her clit is super sensitive. We'll probably figure it out eventually. idk.
>>35056852idk what to tell you other than try tatric sex or some shit, to control it rather than become a gooner with a gf. starting edging and shit.I'm a virgin though so maybe don't listen to me but if I had a woman willing to entertain me I'd take it to another level
>>35056875There are a few things which I have not mentioned because it would probably derail this thread, but yea its a cluster. Hopefully we figure out what to do.
>>35056880Sounds like she's willing to work with you though, just kinda needy because she wants that intimacy to happen with her, not without her. I'd also help her try to learn new ways to coom because she sounds retarded desu. Good luck sexhaver
>>35056908>I'd also help her try to learn new ways to coom because she sounds retarded desuShe is unwilling to use sex toys or masturbate. We are discussing other options however.
>>35056723There are ways to pay attention to her that don't involve putting your penis in her. Talking to her, for example.
