Someone is currently trauma dumping on me and I do not give a single shit but don't want to hurt her feelings but also want her to stop, don't want to ruin my relationship with her forever but I just dont care about what she's saying
at least, you feel enough guilt over your callousness to go through the pain of posting a thread about ityou can't be that bad, OP
>>35050527I mean I am finding it so cringe consoling her, like a script out a tv show when someone is crying, I dont know what else to say to her
>>35050521Trauma dumping is only the perspective of someone who truly doesnt care about who is being vulnerable and confiding in you. Either you care and communicate, which balances reciprocation and will naturally settle anything uneven as your grow together. Or you dont care and should say that, with which the person leaving is better off for it.
>>35050531being cringe for somebody else is a sacrifice in and of itselfdon't be too harsh on yourselfin my eyes, if you only listen and nod your head from time to time, it's already enough, even if you do not care
>>35050521Don’t feel to bad about just letting the conversation fizzle. If she asks if something is wrong or if you actually don’t care, respond with “no” but let this be extremely low effort and low priority.If somebody is using you like a tissue with no regard for who you are or any self awareness at all, then you don’t have to coddle them. You want to keep your relationship so you can’t be direct but you can absolutely just lay off and reply slower or whatever.She forgets herself. Just come back when she can treat you like a normal person again.
>>35050521every good husband knows how to nod their yeah and say, 'uh-huh', without giving it a calorie of thought.you just need practice.
>>35050896That's not a good husband. That's a mistake you settled with and are unfifiles and unhappy the rest of your life
>>35050521As someone who can’t stop yapping about poor me, shove it down her throat that you kindly have to interrupt but you are not a professional and she needs professional help. That will show her. In all kindness, you are not bound to be her container and you don’t have to care.
>>35050521Just get her drunk and bang her, loser
