Unfortunately, I believe I am found to be boring by women. The first and only woman to ever kiss me, I believe became bored of me. Which sucks because I am mid 30's now and didn't get my first kiss until early 30's. So not too long ago. What can I do to be less boring I guess? I hate it because I feel that no one would ever love me for how I am. Which means I am forced to change in a way that I most likely won't like or will stress me out. I don't know how to entertain women though. I am not particularly enthralled by going out to concerts or restaurants or parties. For dating, I basically just pick a restaurant I think the women would like because most of them don't matter to me and I care minimally about what we eat etc. I wish I felt more strongly or more opinionated but I have never been a strongly opinionated person. What can I do to fix that?
>>35040449>I was called boring.If I had to guess, she said this because A: you didn't talk about your interests.B: you did and she didn't like them.C: you don't have any interests or hobbies.D: you displayed no emotions or gave no signs of affection.A mistake you made was confusing doing activities together and spending time together. All valid romantical activities are talking to her and doing something else on the side. Talking with her while eating dinner, talking with her while waiting in line at a amusement park.All of these activities are like a little game we play, you implicitly are like:>no I don't want to talk to you, I just want to go to x with youAnd then you end up talking while your there.It sounds like you took her to the restaurant because she wanted to go there and not because she wanted to talk with you but needed a reason. And then you just sat there, ate food you didn't care about, paid and left.I am just guessing here since you gave very little to go off of.
>>35040587I mean I definitely talked to her on the dates. However, my dates only ever were restaurants. I actually don't like doing dates as anything but lunch or dinner or something. I imagine she just got bored of me. She was the one that initiated kissing me too. She kissed me on the third date I think. I was planning on trying but she beat me to the punch. Ultimately she told me she found our personalities too different.
Don't jerk off before dates. That will give you low energy and women can sense it. Have high energy / sex drive, and talk about random shit while being interested in stuff you say.Don't overthink saying things, just say the first thing that comes to mind as long as it isn't too racist.
Just be more interesting
Show interest in the girl, ask her about her interests / hobbies / work / etc. keep the conversation moving while letting her talk, and show that you're listening. That alone will put you above average for men's social skills. The next level beyond that is sprinkling in some jokes and flirting along with letting her talk. I'm sure you know this, but the way to avoid boring is to want to be there, show interest in her, let her talk, and keep the conversation moving.
