How do I genuinely avoid temptation as a married guy (30s?I’m around a lot of Gen z girls for my job, and ngl it’s kind of hard not to act on anything. I’ve had a few , like two come on to me. Wife and I aren’t really active like that anymoreMoralfags aside.. any tips on dealing with temptation?
>>35038765I had a similar situation, and I made slight steps towards giving into those temptations without actually doing them. Predictably, it felt absolutely horrible. I realized two things:1, most people are completely intolerable.I married my wife for a lot of reasons. None of those reasons were present in other women.2, the things I was unhappy with were completely fixable. I just had to stop being a bitch about it and sincerely communicate my problems.If things don't improve after communication or #1 doesn't apply to you, then move on.
>>35038792This is genuinely good advice OP. I've also experienced those feelings you're describing. My wife and I have a pretty active sex life, but I still sometimes look at a beautiful and my mind wanders. But then I remember what it was like for me even when I did sleep around a lot. Strangers are fun, but I have an emotional connection with my wife that I would genuinely struggle to find with other people. And besides that, even if you get a new partner that's more beautiful, more sexual, more of anything you want right now, eventually what's new becomes normal, and the cycle resets itself.If you're genuinely unhappy, that's one thing, but if you're just bored, that will pass
Keep your dick in your pants.
>>35038765>any tips on dealing with temptation?keep in mind grass is always greener on the other side. It's how our brains are wired. Keep in mind we're nothing but hyper intelligent monkeys, animals. To be human is to make peace with that and understand it
IdkBut can you give me advice on attracting them
>>35038765You can't avoid temptation, you simply need to ignore it. The key is to be absolutely disciplined about it. Any time you find yourself thinking "Well, it won't do any if I just..." remind yourself firmly that yes, it fucking will, and don't do it. Once you take the first step towards cheating, it's much harder to stop.
>>35039165>"Well, it won't do any if I just..."That should, of course, read "it won't do any HARM if I just..."
>>35038765If you’re married and feel temptations around other girls period then you need a divorce because you didn’t marry the right person. The right woman will make you forget that other girls even exist. If your wife doesn’t give you that feeling then you’re wasting time right now, and the crazy thing is one of those Gen Z girls could be the one you’re actually supposed to be with. Follow your heart and don’t worry about hurting people because 99 percent of people are just gonna hurt you if they get the chance so just follow your heart until you meet the person that kills all that temptation for other people.
>>35038765Good question, anon. Here are some practical advice: meditation and cold showers. Why? Your thoughts and feelings are like the weather. You are not your thoughts nor your emotions. They come and go and they don't define you. They fade after a while just like they arise almost from nothing. Meditation and cold shower can give you a hands on experience with this. And when the temptation comes, you can just observe the feeling like you observed the cold. Just inhale deeply and know this too shall pass.I know this feeling. You don't necessarily have to be in a bad relationship for this to happen. Your mind naturally seeks thrills and novelty. Why do you think so many people seemingly go crazy around 30-40? They are just channelling this energy into marathons or gardening or whatever.Nobody warns you that the hard part comes after you get the girl.
>>35039270>The right woman will make you forget that other girls even exist.That's what he thought.
>>35039270disney absolutely fried your brain
Imagine how much worse and unstable your life would be without your wife, feel that dread, and just say I'm married
>>35038765resolve to kill yourself if you ever commit adultery
>>35039270I hope you never get married to someone who doesn't deserve that harm
>>35038765You should look down at your hand and remind yourself why you married your wife.You should also talk to your wife about your dead bedroom and stop jerking off to porn.You could also just show her this thread and divorce her.
>>35039351He went for the first woman that gave his fat ass the time of day during a birthright trip to Israel and probably bought into a bit of the chosenite mythology to more easily convince himself that they were meant to be.
>>35039158wear a fake wedding band and pretend to be married.
>>35038765Honestly? Pray.And if you don't pray, you'll have a huge debuff, but at least try to fuck your wife EVERY DAY (except, you know, when she's on her cycle or during a nasty sickness).
Go see a prostitute if you need to get it out of your system. It's just sex. If you do it with someone you know, she'll find out for sure.
>>35038765> How do I genuinely avoid temptation as a married guyDon't.You'll regret not doing it.
>>35038765>Wife and I aren’t really active like that anymoreThen "get active" again as you so faggily put it. Literally have sex.
all fornicators would burn in hell in a just worldFuck off
>>35038765>How do I genuinely avoid temptation as a married guy (30s?you don't. It's just not possible to avoid it, it's right there in front of you.>any tips on dealing with temptation?You don't deal with it. You either feel like a POS about it and don't act, or you don't feel like a POS and you do. Plus if another woman wants to sleep with you and knows you're married, it's partly on them as well.
