I get told I'm handsome and look younger than my age all the time, and it's always by other men.Yesterday some random dude stopped me on the street and told me I was a spitting image of some 80s actor he was a fan of.And yeah I did look like him.My point is that I'm 37 and I haven't had a gf since I was 22 because I ilterally can't find one. I spent ages 30-37 frantically trying to find a gf before getting too old but it was impossible.When I ask advice online anons go "maybe ur just ugly" but I dont think it's that. People literally come up to me and tell me I'm handsome and ask my number but they're guys.
>Social media and smartphones made sure you were single ages 20-30 because women were shaking their asses on Tiktok for views>you turn 30>"booo you're too old now! go look at old women"My problem isnt that I couldnt get a gf. I could probably hook up with a 40yo woman by the end of this day if I really had toProblem is, I dont want an old woman even though I'm an old guy myselfI want the hot 19yo tiktok gf I missed out on
>>85866176>I'm 37I was about to post a gif of an anime girl laughing but then I saw you already had a gf and now I feel mogged
>>85866176looks don't matter directly to womenlooks matter to men because women have birthing expiration and evolution needed a way to track distance to that precisely and/or check current fertility status, males effectively can make sperm about same all the time, so looks don't matter for attraction (outside of things that track past bad health or disability)women's heterosexuality activates in post-paired like context, which is hard to simulate over internet or even meeting up occasionally. because women are default effectively asexual outside of extremes, non-male dimorphic things that are more general human thing are evaluated first for viability. you can understand what women will be interested in better by thinking what she thinks her friends will be interested in or what a hypothetical hot women she thinks would be interested in, dress/act accordingly. Resource signal and willingness to uniquely spend/gift/associate her over seeming alternative is preferred. In private context, things like standing closer than normally comfortable would help your case as well. if you are hoping to be asked out by women, it's not going to happen. women also dislikes the idea of choosing in relationship context, the direction of the outcome would have to feel natural, if felt like a negotiation or asking permission or making her decide between things, she'll take it as a negative signal. do not discuss long term and all that early, don't bring such things up, women do not have any real short term interest unlike guys despite what you have heard or seen in stats. you have to give her a sense that you are being picky but indirectly. if you have autism or similar, larp stoic modes and talk slowly as if thinking between pauses. Bring cheap small gift at every interaction after first but something keep-able not flower or food.
>>85866176>My point is that I'm 37
>>85866222Serves you right and u know it
>>85866176Found a picture of OP
>>85866450I dunno how this happened. I was 27 just a couple of years agoLiterally did nothing
>>85866498I'm OP and I actually look younger than this guy
>>85866495>Serves you right and u know itI'm miserable so I laugh at others' to feel better about myself, senpai
>>85866522You look like a tween?
>>85866547Im glad u can admit itEveryone does that and it's so weird. I dont do it though, because I'm confident
>>85866222>i was going to make fun of you and call you a cuck but now im a cuck and my clitty is smallHOLY SHIT WHY ARE INCELS LIKE THIS.
>>85867032How do I become more like you, senpai? I need an arc of self-development.
>>85866176You'd be surprised at how many are actually decently good looking. It's just the autism and years of social isolation that gets in the way.
>>85867207It's our culture. Women sit indoors looking at Tiktok and talking to Tiktok men.What am I supposed to do? Join Tiktok?
>>85867207>>85867888Social isolation is harder to overcome than being ugly because women are obsessed with group social approval. If you don't have a normal looking instagram page with pictures of you and friends a huge amount of women will just write you off.
>>85867986That's kafkaesque, anon. It makes no sense and men shouldnt roll with it
>>85866176I legit had a therapist quit on me because I said I like Sam Hyde's comedy and he said he was for incels. He actually used the word in the therapy session. Fucking lel at my life.>>85867986Also this. Social proof. It's literally like how social proof is heat energy and the barrier to being socially proven from years of social isolation is how much energy it takes to melt ice. It takes more energy to melt an ice cube of a given volume and turn it into water than to raise the temperature of the water, of the same volume, one degree. Imagine how much social energy and socializing will be required to break the social conditioning of being isolated all day and wondering if you will ever be good enough to be liked, being a supposedly mature adult yet behaving like an awkward teenager and lacking the presence and theory of mind and social grace and experience to feel at ease among people.One will grow to resent the isolation and will take solace in potentially becoming the monster that destroys society, or one who takes it over to remake it into his own image.
>>85868389>That's kafkaesque, anon. It makes no sense and men shouldnt roll with itThe only way to overcome this gynocratic society is to face it down and tell it to everyone at once that the reason why everything is going badly is because there is no leader, and because nobody wants to become the responsible leader, because people are not allowed to let their value judgements become truly enacted perspectives without inviting the moral/social opprobrium of the group, because who are you to think differently from the rest of the group.To which I ask, where did you get your beliefs and attitudes from? Who imparted to you your views? Are you truly your own person or did you just pick up someone else's views.People hate thinking of themselves as being less than others, as not being someone Original, because that reveals to them their own inadequacy, their inability to develop themselves, and revealing their agency to being a sham.You must practice your agency daily in order to maintain it, or else your frame will collapse. Exercise and training, helping people in need, etc are all necessary yet insufficient requirements; you must be diligent and disciplined practitioners of your own enjoyment of your life, such that you don't overdo it, but also not hate yourself.
