Foid, why don't you find a narcissistic BF to control and use you with no concern for your emotional well-being?
>>85862331Ive read so many posts of girls who were mislead and tricked into a relationship by a narc and they are miserable, developed mental issues, and desperate to rid themselves of the narc. They wasted life and wish to go back and make the right decision. Being with a narc would be a life ruining mistake to go that path. Better to be with someone who i love and truly loves me. That person provides for all my needs naturally. A narc fakes interaction and would just be conversing with a masking liar who im not actually compatible with. Id rather be with someone who is true and that gives me more fufillment than any other could. Actual love.
>>85862408Good and thoughtful answer.
Whatever you do, don't marry one. Run block ghost while you still can.
>>85862589But what if he's got that cult leader energy?
>>85862591Doesn't matter. The choice that yields the most pleasure and fulfillment in life is actual love. The narc you describe is not even mentioned or seen ever again when on the right path. Thank God for that.
>>85862331Most foids are narcs themselves.
>>85862685Then they would be compatible.
>>85862690Nope. Narc and narc is extremely volatile with very intense fights. Seen it myself. Only works if they are stuck together, like mother and daughter.
>>85862331The thing about narcissists, they rarely lack the ability to introspect, so this thread of people saying they don't want to be with narcs, could very well just be narcs themselves believing that a "good partner" is one that acquiesces to everything. I was with someone once that would, with no hint of irony, say I was selfish because I didn't do every single thing they wanted me to do. A person that would continually accuse me of lying with no reason other than they feel I am a liar, a person who basically saw me like a stuffed animal, that idealized me, then discarded me once I no longer fit their idea of what "good" was.The thing that pisses me off the most about this person, is that to this day, they believe i was the issue, however, I think when they're old and by themselves, they won't ever have to come to terms with the fact that they're the problem, their circumstances will reflect it.
>>85862331>>85862408the worst part is when you actually care about a person, but they eventually think youre disgusting and uncaring only to end up with an actual narcissist
>>85862408Then every other guy after the narc has to pick up the pieces, or she just goes for another narc
>>85862774This isn't necessarily narcissism, but yeah most of the time they project it onto you. If they think calling you those things will upset you, then they will do it. This works for a lot of people. For example, calling someone a liar will typically make people apologize deeply and try to make up for it. If you don't then they will typically escalate instead of discarding you, though I guess it depends on how invested they are at that point.The calling card of narcs tho is continuing the insults and BS after the relationship is over. They often have a hard time letting go, especially if you end things. By letting go, I mean their egos are damaged and they need to make you pay. Again, most people would interpret this and them trying to get back together. It may in fact be that, but they will just repeat the cycle all over again.I was completely unaware of this when I was younger, and I think tons of people fall into the trap early in life. I thought a narcissist was the same as a sociopath or something. Narcs are often not even aware they are doing it.
>>85862685No. They are not a narc. A narc may gaslight them that they are to say they are compatible but that's a lie. She is only doing it as a defence mechanism because she is miserable with him and wants to leave.
>>85862788Don't make the mistake in the first place and if you found you have then ghost block and leave immediately
>>85862838>A narc may gaslight them that they are to say they are compatible but that's a lie.Not necessarily. Manipulation comes in many forms. Don't be naive.
>>85862860Oh you've been using that one. Once she realizes she was gaslit then that's one more foot out the doorNot naive to make saying nah I'm good to a narc and going the other direction is a rule that doesn't change.
>>85862917You used gender neutral language bro. I thought you were talking about the woman gaslighting the man.
>>85862917But yeah, even if you suspect someone of being a narc it's time to separate.
>>85862331As someone with BPD, narcissists are often a good match for us. I wish I had a narcissist bf to worship.
>>85862928You can find all the narcs here. Hope this helps.>>>/soc/
>>85862936Already there, haven't found anyone yet.
>>85862928Larping narc trying to influence bpd girls. Probably gaslight them that they have bpd to make up some lies because he knows they are not compatible at all and she's be better off away from him in the first place because a narc is the worst life everything she has ever detested.
>>85862940Dunno what to tell you. I'm scared to death of narcs and can't handle BPD.>>85862947Who hurt you? Where is he? Oh right, nowhere in your life.
>>85862928yeah. i have pretty serious bpd issues and i know a narc who is in love with me. i am in love with him too but ive tried for a long time to be normal and i'm very afraid of giving in to my inner darkness so I don't do it. but he says the right things at the right times. we know how to manipulate each other in ways that feel good. he knows when to insult me and tell me to shut up, i know when to call him a genius and tell him that the world doesn't deserve someone like him. it's sort of crazy how extremely fucked up people can just sort of mesh in a natural way.nowadays i kinda regret turning down his proposal, but it wasn't the right time for it.
>>85862948You mean the mistake, name starts with c
>>85862958>I always say the right things at the right timeMike has said this phrase a ton. You don't sound like him but there's a alot of elements of him there
i'm stupid and mentally ill, but not THAT stupid and mentally ill. i like being happy and i dont like when people are mean to me.
>>85862964>name starts with cWas that an attempt to expose me or something? My name starts with 'A' for Anonymous. I'm 99% shitposting here because I'm bored.
>>85862980There's a different emotional language for low empathy people. You get through your shitty childhood and then you meet other adults like yourself and slowly find out the many rules of interacting with the personality types that you attract. Talking for low empathy people is more of a game than a sincere exchange. We know exactly what makes the other person feel good and don't care that it's superficial. Because we both know that we know we can feel something close to a connection through the proxy of having our minds being understood and manipulated by somebody else. It's a really satisfying experience that normal people can do naturally by just interacting socially.sorry, not sure if I explained my thoughts on it well.
>>85862408Female covert narc is more dangerous than a male narc.
>>85863065Gaslighting her she's a narc is pathetic
>>85863054You can't determine high or low empathy through language alone. If you believe you can then you are fooling yourself. In the real world, it takes time to know people on a personal level. Sometimes you can tell someone has issues, such as making presumptions about character through text or trivial online discussions.
>>85863110that doesnt contradict anything I said.as you get to know the people that are emotionally aligned with you, both of you come to understand in each other that you both are liars. takes one to know one, and all that.
>>85862408I've unfortunately met many narcs at my workplace.I cannot for the life of me understand how people fall for their BS.They try to come off as charismatic, but it always comes off in a superficial way.They make statements that don't really mean anything to sound cool, they try way too hard to sell a cool/tough/sexy image of themselves, and say the dumbest shit to try to be funny.You can kind of tell that they are kind of desperate to get people to like them and believe themThey also pathologically lie so much. You don't realize it at first because you would never think a person could be up to so much bullshit, but the lives they live are actually extraordinarily sordid due to them having low self control.They are like clown people
>>85863123I mean yeah, like you both can be wrong at the same time. I think I misunderstood your original post.
I'm done with you, /r9k/. My narcissism knows no bounds, and you no longer fulfill my needs. However, I will give you a mere glimpse into the mind of an evil narc bastard before I leave.You are nothing but musical instruments to me. I play a note. A minor. Ahhh, the sweet, melancholic tone of sadness. I revel in it. Another note! Now, increase the tempo. Exquisite! I'm a puppet master. THE puppet master.You have no idea how this feels. To have endless foids at my disposal. I am beautiful. I am great. There is no one else like me. I have no idea how this board will manage with the void that I leave, but I will say one last thing. You were never good enough for me, /r9k/. You may call me a narcissist, but that only confirms your status as a puppet.
>>85862928this is literally me and my gf lmao she worships the ground I walk on and is obsessive and clingy and I am king of the world.
>>85863207Write a list of what you do in a day. It will be the most basic bitch stuff possible. You are like any other normie but with a mental health disorder that makes reality scary. You are a scared kid who needs to hide in imagination land. We all had a narcissistic phase growing up, you just didnt grow out of it yet.
>>85863301I cannot believe you took that post seriously. lmao.
>>85862846>Don't make the mistake in the first place and if you found you have then ghost block and leave immediatelyhow about i not get involved with women entirely? Complete peace of mind.
I had a narcissistic phase when i was about twenty. I would treat my gf like shit be because i felt like she would cheat on me one day. I also had a weird narrative in my head about her living a double life that i didnt know about. After we broke up i started feeling like i was a super human, unlike anyone else. I barely ate or slept for days thinking i didnt need it. I had moments when i would run and dance in the streets feeling like i was about to break free from everything and become some kind of super star. Then reality finally came crashing in and i had to spend years trying to rebuild myself. Finding out i was still myself and that i had been hiding from my own mind was pretty traumatic. No wonder some people go half a life time without facing truth
>>85863375This legit sounds like bipolar.
>>85863295You sound like an insecure narc desperate to lock doors so she doesnt leave you
>>85862408It's crazy how well narcissists and people who feign confidence can waltz through life, getting jobs and connections and women as easily as they want. Us authentic autists who feel shame can't really partake in that feeding frenzy, and we also get basically no earthly recompense for our moral behavior. Mods, patch this shit.
>>85863861>It's crazy how well narcissists and people who feign confidence can waltz through life.Don't interact with them. Grey rock. It's that simple.
>>85863861Narcs do not have it better. They actually have it worse because anyone who isnt retarded sees through their posturing (like this thread and tall the boasting "my gf worships me") . they are insufferable to be around and rely in lies and decieving others who they are just to be okay to be around them. Eventually they reveal themselves and get abandoned and blocked. No one likes a narc when they see who he actually is. So many engagements broken because the narc demasked and she thanked god she got the fuck away at the last second before ruining her life
>>85863927>So many engagements broken because the narc demasked and she thanked god she got the fuck away at the last second before ruining her lifeTranslation: he broke up with me and that's totally not fair.
>>85863996The opposite. Dumped his narc ass and am pawning the ring.
My mom is an covert npd and my dad is overt npd. Idk how I haven't killed myself yet tbqh
>>85864665>pawning the ringOk vullie
I'm narcissistic but the bad kind for a relationship. Everything has to be done my way or I get pissed off.
>>85864731>Everything has to be done my way or I get pissed offPretty sure this is what women are attracted to
>>85864748I've had relationships before and they ended badly. They did have quite strong personalities though.
>>85864728I could just flush but it will feel better to use the cash to move out and in with my guy.
I'm too smart for it and see through all their manipulating shenanigans. Narcs fear me
>>85862408this is all well and good until you see one too many situations with such consistency, despite outspoken messaging against such relationships. some women are tricked; some seek the relationship. it's not 100% of the time that a woman's helplessly being acted upon. and it's even rather misogynistic that people claiming to protect women (not saying you did that with your post) always perceive women this way.
>>85864879Depends on who it is. The one I know was deceived engaged and then figured it all out finally and is working through getting away.
>>85863861Is this how you rationalize being an absolute fucking loser? The people who are better than you, more successful than you, aren't narcissists faking it. They're genuinely just better than you. And what you're interpreting as narcissism is really just the natural reaction of someone who is successful to those who are below them in the hierarchy. It's not pathological.
>>85865115a narc larped that post o compliment himself and gloat over others, hoping they are idiotic to think what he is saying is true. Yes, hes a loser.
>>85864837As a narc, this is untrue. Autists are trivially easy to manipulate, like children.
>>85865174I think there are very few actual narcs in the real world. What most people categorize as narcissism, as I pointed out in my post, is just the natural reaction of normal people to the people beneath them in the natural hierarchy.
>>85865182Who wrote that post is a bruised ego insecure narc. Makes larp posts like that all day trying to convince others he has worth by complimenting himself and samefagging. Tiresome
>>858651771. You assume wrong that the person has autism2.you come across as an insecure loser
>>85865182>>85865115Pretty retarded post. Obviously there are plenty of people who succeed through will and skill, but a narcissist or sociopath who isn't bothered by ethics or other people's interests will almost always outpace people of similar skill levels. A low tier narc will get ahead of low tier normies and a high tier etc etc. If you don't understand that then you lack the theory of mind to understand why people do things, and the critical thinking to trace why people arrive in various positions. It's also possible you yourself aren't either a narcissist or successful, and are pathologizing your own modest position.
>>85865115i heckin love science
>>85866115>T.false self reports "im popular, high status"Loser narc
>>85866380coping retard>>85866115sadly totally true, egoists run the world
>>85865177That's because they are usually meek and don't want trouble. However, when you push an autist over the edge... Tread lightly anon. That's all I say.
that's the goal...that's the goal
Whenever I find myself with a new foid, I pour myself a glass of Chianti and contemplate. Shall I force her hand? I ponder. Nothing brings me greater joy than to see her in an emotional fit. Yelling, screaming. All icing on the cake of despair. The tool I adore most... my chef's knife. I slice up her psyche as if it were a cheap pastry. All going according to plan.First, her independence. Taken. She can no longer function without me. I move on to her confidence. Delicious! My favorite piece: her autonomy. Everything is under my control. She is nothing more than a drooling, babbling little foid. My cake. My design.
>>85866793Says the narc being a coping retard.
>>85867523And yet narc colton is the one sperging out
>>85867708Who tf is Colton?
Can you feel it, anons? My aura is sacrosanct. Bask upon my glory. You little foids are nothing but concubines for my harem of mental anguish.
At least we all learned something today. Something.
>>85867845Silence! We are on the precipice of a great unfolding. My mind... revealed for all to see. My words echo throughout 4chan, resonating at a frequency only a foid can hear.
