Why do flirty love bombers always turn out to be cold, empty, and almost emotionless on the inside
A lot of guys just get a sudden burst of interested emotion and then it fades away and they lose all interest. There are also more calculating sociopaths who intentionally use love-bombing to reach certain goals but they are quite rare, most people just behave based on their animal instincts letting their emotions decide how to act.
>>85856709Because the object of their affection didn't love bomb them back, making them feel spurned. Unless they are loved back exactly as they love the object of their affection, it might as well be an outright rejection.
>>85856709nah i knew a lovebomber and she was constantly barely holding off complete meltdown. she might not have had the advertised emotions but she definitely had emotions.
>>85856709they are compensating for their own lack of warmth
>>85856709Because it's a nice thing to do if you know you can't put that energy out long-term day by day in a constant stream of emotionSome people are BPD / bipolar and cannot regulate emotions and have to release them in a big wave all at once to someone. I am not such a one but I can see immediately why they do it.
>>85856709They don't have intimacy inside, so expressions of emotional vulnerability have been trained to produce a response rather than the authentic thing which can be awkward and uncomfortable. Then you catch them when they drop the mask or stop pretending, and their empty inner self becomes more and more apparent.
>>85856709They could be attempting that because they want you back, but most times it's probably because showing any real emotion in other ways is heavily penalized. It's mostly an act, because you could catch a glimpse of the real them if you're sharp enough, but after that it's a toss up whether you'd actually like them or not. Women routinely punish men who show emotion in feminine ways. They always seem to lose attraction when the act is over, or they see the once idealized figure in reality for who they actually are. Which is a shame, because that's when most relationships should start, due to it not being surface level anymore.
>>85856709Because using emotional manipulation when you dont have anything going on is pretty easy. Also, if someone actually takes things slow it can be read as not interested so there is some incentive to be as aggressive as possible when interested in someone
>>85856709You just described narcissists
