It's the start of the week again, take a deep breath in, hold it and exhaleWere you thinking of giving up today? No you weren't. You made it through last week, you'll make it through this one as wellWhat are your goals for this week? What do you plan to achieve? List it all down.Take a deep breath, hold it and exhale, move at your own paceWe're ALL gonna make itThe motivation thread is openPrevious thread >>77527978
yeah!! shoot for the stars, my brave boys and girls!! let's go
>>77563913I fantasize about shoving my entire face into the ass cracks of all these beautiful women in the gym wearing leggings.I find it hard - if not impossible - to believe that there will be bad odours in there.
>>77563920you should stop going to gyms
I didnt binge eat at all. Stuck to my calorie goal and going to a new gym today. Wgmi
>>77563920Sometimes there are, sometimes there aren't. I noticed that the more orgasmic the woman is, the worse the smell might get around the time the Red Army comes.
>>77563927I see a beautiful woman with a shapely ass and I simply cannot fathom that her ass crack might not smell intoxicating
>>77563931Then I have a trick for you. Girls on SSRIs. They might be harder to get going, but the smell is divine and you can eat ass for hours.
>>77563936describe the scent
>>77563913Recently started dating a girl that's head over heels for me. Feels really nice but I can't help but feel like I'm going to break up with her soon. Idk if it's because she's overweight (I think I can change that but idk) or if it's something else I can't detect. Pretty frustrating since I don't normally get girls that are this into me.
>>77563983Dont date people if you have to immediately change them. It never goes well
I want to be loved by everyone
>>77563997Thats easy. Doing things for people. Asking if people need help. Doing things for free. Being personable. Also be slightly attractive
How to max the sexy man lines?
>>77563997If you must be loved by everyone, start with yourself. If you can love yourself truly from an place of egalitarianism and not a solipsistic narcissistic core you can become magnetic and love like the sun for everyone's benefit.
>>77563925Good job! Keep up the momentum and you’ll acquire mires! WAGMI
>>77564002Obliques? Russian twists and side bends
>>77563913Doing really well. I recently started supplementing Ubiquinol and ALCAR and it actually alleviated my chronic fatigue. I haven't missed a session in the past 5 weeks and made consistent progress and visible gains even though I've been lifting for years already. I'm not quite back to my peak but also not far off. It's probably bullshit but I feel like my test levels skyrocketed. Mood is good, productivity is high, libido much higher than usual, boners better, healthy level of aggression. Only bad thing is that I've been drinking pretty frequently but not a lot. I've also not really eaten enough, so I've left gains on the table but I'm trying to be more consistent with that.
>>77564002Dont eat. Train abs.
>>77564120Still sounds like you’re making good progress. You’ve identified the correct problem and will rectify it. Good luck
I've drastically fallen behind on my dietbut my gym performance has increased, I've learned to push harder and closer to failurebut but it doesn't matter as much when I'm training in a deficit to just maintain the muscle I havebut but but I think that ability will help me with sticking to my diet(I can't imagine tasting many beers has helped)we'll see, one step back and one step forward
it finally happened friendos, this morning I benched 220 for a double. here's where I stand after <1 year barbell training (best set or ORM)>OHP: 145lb>Bench: 220lb>Squat: 405lb>Deadlift: 440lbI think given it's a double I do think I can say 1/2/3/4 has fallen for ORM (I can definitely rep 3 plates on squat and 4 on deadlift at least, but it'll be a bit before I rep 2 plates in bench)it's been fun and exciting to work on these, even though having a relatively weak bench is annoying. I know the grind for 2/3/4/5 will be slower (even though I'm there on squat) but I think I'm hooked for life.
>>77564179That mentality will help a ton once you return to maintenance/bulk. For the time being embrace trying your hardest with minimal returns
>>77564256Congrats! You’ve made killer progress over the last year. If you keep trying the rest of your life, you’ll make it
>>77564345make what
>>77564366it
>>77564366Make it. Achieve your goals, the /fit/ mantra
got a networking event and a happy hour that i'm going to this week. also round 1 of an interview on Thursday, with two other potential interviews this week or next. nothing has changed at my current job, if anything just more signs that the clock is ticking. just honestly dont know what to bother doing anymore at work. had a request for internal job shot down almost immediately. other than that, things are going pretty well. gave blood today, my workouts seem to be progressing nicely. still pushing through cardio. goals this week - nail the interview(s) and go to at least one of the happy hours/networking events. continue studying using my own material. do what i can at work until they stop paying me. continue to market apps.
Still homeless, still in a shelter. Still waiting on longer term housing.I'm gonna more aggressively look for work now as I'm getting fed up of waiting around. Tho if they have me stay at my current shelter to help out it might conflict. But then it'll almost certainly take a while to find work in modern america even if it is just entry level which is prolly the best shot I have for finding anything in any reasonable time frame, not to mention I really dont wanna work an office job.Lifting is going good, I seem to still be gaining strength and presumably muscle albeit slowly.I do feel down sometimes and reading /fit/ has me on edge about aging up from my mid 20s as they make it seem like if you don't have it down sooner than later, you end up settling for the second best or only get a consolation prize for life. Mediocre work, mediocre free time, physique. A mediocre social life and a mediocre girlfriend. Does not inspire confidence.
I think it's the same guy who goes in every thread and responds to everyone and encourages them, may God bless him as he doesn't often get acknowledged or thanked
>>77564559>I do feel down sometimes and reading /fit/ has me on edge about agingYeah, you do realize theres a cohort of self-defeatists here, as well as tranny demoralization campaigns, keep fighting the good fight and eliminate all negative channels, even this place if you notice it has an effect.
>>77564472Good luck in your interview! If there's nothing to do at work, start creating your own projects. Even if they have nothing to do with your job, you'll be able to work on your portfolio
>>77564012How do I love myself?
We've never been more back.Everything is just wonderful.Sure is wonderful to be a disciple of Jesus Christ.
I'm trying to give up snacking. Not that I eat unhealthy, it's the compulsion of eating rather than any dire hungriness. Cut out yummy biscuits, juices and processed meats. Sticking to just fruits, cheeses and breads now
>>77564559Don't take /fit/ too seriously. You have the power to change your life around and acheive greatness
>>77563913>le phone post
I WILL ADVANCE PAST MY FEARI WILL BECOME STRONGER I WILL GET A BETTER JOBI WILL AMEND MY MENTALITYI need to learn how to overcome my fear of failure. I know I’m capable of moving forward, but I can’t find the strength to proceed. I think my best strategy is to lift with a spotter and keep trying. However, I know that I’ve reached some barrier that requires both mental and physical strength. For the time being, I’ll keep trying. Even if I encounter disappointment, I can’t give up. I will bench more over the next year. I’ve decided to reach out to my uncle for help. He said he has industry connections and I’ll take him up on the offer. I can’t be too direct with him, but I know that he has the power to connect me with people. I’ve made the executive decision to attend a networking conference later this month. I need to practice making connections and talking to companies. I pray that if I keep trying, I can start a better job next March or April. I’ve finished the CFA program, I will achieve my next goal. Good luck on your journeys frens! As long as we’re in motion, we’ll find way to move forward. WAGMI
Finally hit my first session back after a few weeks out of the gym due to a half marathon and an insane grad school workload. Numbers are down but getting back felt great. I probably will have to adjust my time in the gym to account for work, life, and my other exercises(bouldering and running).Made things official with the woman I've been seeing and she met my parents, so that front seems to be going well. I met her through some mutual climbing friends and it feels like such a weird flex to have a girlfriend that I didn't meet through the apps.
>>77563913Currently suffering through grief after finding out my ex is dating a close friend and it feels like I lost both a partner and my main friend group. I wakeup in the middle of the night with chest pounding and just trying to force myself to move forward despite everything feels pointless. I went to MT training yesterday and I'm also planning to go today but I'm just hurting.
>>77564795Congrats! Hold onto this feeling and never let the world steal it
>>77564815Try only buying healthy snacks. If you don't have anything unhealthy around, your habits will improve
Just the usual reminder for those in need.Here is the updated /sig/ archive for you guysYou can do it, trust yourself, please don't let me down.sigAnon files 08.2026Main folder:https://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGAfor_my_anonshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/L7RDBDBCMotivational picshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/DmokwDhJsig topicshttps://mega.nz/folder/Lro2TQxT#xGKCfbRYvE5cUkCPZyjzGA/folder/7nQyyRaS
>>77563913I’ve got an assload of random tasks I should tackle on a daily basisI should get that number way down
Looking at the sympoms think i've low test...How can i improve this breh...??
>>77565818Instead of self-diagnosing just get a blood test to know for sure. I get a full blood panel once a year and I think almost all adults would benefit from it. If you do have lower test, it's kind of the same answer as improving a lot of aspects of your general health and well-being. Improve your diet and sleep. If you aren't already lifting and doing cardio that too. If you're fat this is especially impactful. As far as supplementation, you probably have low vitamin D like most of the developed world so that could help. Stuff like ashwaganda can conceivably have an impact but realistically you often have way more basic stuff like what I listed above to optimize before you'd consider that. If your test is clinically low, you might be a candidate for TRT but it depends on many factors like your current lifestyle, the medical zeitgeist surrounding test prescription and how doctors view it in your area and all that. If you're able and it's required, seeing a doctor at that point would be good.
>>77564978Don’t worry too much about numbers, they’ll grow eventually. What matters is that you’re here now. You better be grateful that you got a serious gf without dating apps ;)
slept 4 hours, still have to do evening workaccording to my planning it is pull day... what dosnooze early or gym? I think I know the answer, I just need to hear it from somebody else.
>>77565991Gym. Just go light and focus on form
>>77565834>I get a full blood panel once a year and I think almost all adults would benefit from it.faggot
>>77564987I’m sorry about their betrayal. You have the right perspective, keep moving forward. Eventually you’ll be mentally far away from this event. If you keep yourself occupied, you’ll have less time to dwell
>>77565991Gym. Don't go light.
What are your jobs?
>>77565550Thank you, sigAnon. WAGMI
I didnt talk with the freckled girl in my class. I find rest of class weird and honestly i didnt see other signs besides being attractive,around my age and i like her vibe when smiling. When im gonna say sorry to old woman for ignoring her when walking out saying it wasnt my intention ill strike quick hey i was same faculty as you u never saw me before? I do want to make her day saying its impressive she is in her masters my friends also. I wish her a lot of earnest good luck. I dont want to date her anymore but i do want to increase my stats in charisma and kindness. WAGMI
>>77566170Youre mum
>>77565557Take it one by one. Don't feel overwhelmed, you just need to do a little
>>77563925haven't seen this image in a whileWAGMI
Got a date this Friday. Even if it doesn’t go well, I’m glad to get more experience. I need to avoid wizarddom
>>77568075Hell yeah. How'd you manage that?
>>77568075Similar boat for me. I had my first date ever at 31 a few weeks ago. There wasn't any chemistry but it was fairly pleasant and not awkward which was a win all things considered.
>>77568354Got any advice, playboy?
>>77568445Not really, I'm obviously not in a position to give out advice.
>>77566589Are you being ironic?
>>77568217My aunt set me up with someone younger than me. I’m not sure we’re compatible but I’m looking forward to it
>>77563983>girl that's head over heels for meEverybody's head is over their heels retard. Go back to India
>>77569271>jeet or some other brownoid flavour of esl is calling someone else a jeet because he doesn't know of basic idiomswhat level of irony is this?
>>77566170Now this is radicalization
>>77569283>bites an obvious baitIt was level 2. You lost. Now go back to Jeetland Raj
>>77569357>I was only pretending SAAARI'm whiter than you could ever be
>>77563983Thought I could get my wife to lose weight too. Turns out I couldn’t. But I could give her ptsd from verbal abuse.
Thinking about quitting my job and becoming a flight attendant. Not even sure if I'll stay at that but I think it'll be fun potentially. I'm in my early 30s and I'm fine with the idea of not knowing what the future holds now. I felt like a failure for not being able to find a career that I can stand and constantly hopping around but now I just want to live a life I don't regret instead of one I think will impress others.
>>77569427Don’t be harsh but be passive aggressive. Mention how you’re going to the gym or eating better. If she sees you get /fit/, she’ll copy you
>>77569505>Thinking about quitting my job and becoming a flight attendant.LONDON
>>77569606I'm not a woman, but since it's a woman dominated field that's another bonus
>>77569777>I'm not a womandon't careLONDONONDON
>>77569777if u a flight attennent u a woman to me know'm sayin
>>77569505You’re making the right choice in pursuing what you’re passionate about and not paying attention to status. But research the job and talk to people who hold it. The job may not be as glamorous as it seems
>>77566454I TALKED WITH HER. quick one set of 5min talking to woman. During class teacher was doing something and she leaned in near me. Head very close my chest oh yea one spray naxos nice smell. I kept it lowkey as much as my autism allowed idk i think it went okay. Next lesson i try to talk more. When she said see you next lesson. I replied with i hope and then she laughed. Positive or negative. I decided to talk to woman to increase my charisma points. Imagine exp gained from talking to attractive young girl. Shes most beautiful one and im only fit person in class. Im getting more positive attention but im very autistic and confused so i try to learn how to do this right. I find myself a huge loser.
>>77569823I'll fly there for you bb>>77569926Sorry I don't speak negro>>77569927A friend of a friend currently works for them so I have that line. Seems like I'll be taking a 10k pay cut if I get the job so I'd have to work a decent amount of OT on some months or live frugally. Seems like it has its pros and cons but for most the pros our weigh the cons. If not I'll thinking about going to trade school as well to become an electrician. That way I have something to fall back on.
>>77570173If you're comfortable with the pay cut, go for it!
>>77563913So true king.
>>77569958Congrats bro! Keep on smiling at her and asking her questions
I feel so profoundly terrible with a feeling I can't name and at the same time I feel like I don't feel anything.A scary thought came through my head where I thought that even if I had many of the things I want to have they wouldn't make me feel better.
>>77572673Probably just depression induced anhedonia. Shit blows, took me years to get out from under it.
TODAY I FINALLY BROKE THROUGH A PLATEAU :DDDD
>>77572758depression is for faggots and I'm not a faggotas for anhedonia, the "inability" part doesn't fit as I still can feel but the "reduced" part does fit>took me years to get out from under it.glad to hear it
I got so dizzy after benchpress today that I lost my balance when I stood up and had to hold the cage pillar to not fall over. Obviously I stopped the workout and ate some dates and drank water, but what in the FUCK was that? I hate cutting so much. I think it's a combination of not drinking enough, not eating enough, and no proper warm up other than a single plateless set. I guess I'm getting old and need to babysit myself every single day and do long warmups.
>>77573034>but what in the FUCK was that?you're supposed to breathe nigga
>>77573099My breathing is indeed shit, I do both exhale and inhale when the bar is fully up and perform the entire range holding my breath, but it never bothered me.Also I stayed lightheaded hours after the fact so it is a combination of everything.
What are your opinions on lifting while on a hard cut? Do you maintain your regiment while simply expecting progress to stall or slow? Do you change your routine, reps, sets or amount of days lifting?
>>77572673If obtaining those things won't make you happy, you need to consider what will
>>77573034Bros I'm still getting dizzy when I get up, even from lying position to just sitting in bed. By dizzy I mean world-spinning dizzy and losing balance. It goes away after a few seconds I can even walk around fine and do chores. Should I see a doc?My smartwatch shows normal heartbeat, blood pressure, and oxygen levels.
>we're all gonna make it brahs
>be me>28>I’ve sexed some girls before, some of them fairly attractive>extremely high libido as in I get random erections throughout the day and feel horny quite frequently, but sometimes when I’m with a girl I can’t get hard because of anxiety, but was able to fuck maybe 70% of the gorls I’ve slept with>don’t really care about the other 30% who I couldn’t fuck because couldn’t get hard>start going out with the most attractive girl by far I’ve ever dated about 2 months ago>this weekend and last weekend we tried having sex multiple times, I made her cum twice but I can’t get hard>wanna kms because she’s so fucking hot and I really wanna fuck her, but I can’t get out of my own head>I’m still seeing another girl who is cute but not nearly as attractive as this other girl, but with her I get hard as soon as she walks through my doorstep and I can fuck her multiple times in one nightI just failed to get an erection again with the really attractive girl and I couldn’t fuck her again. She says it’s fine but I’m worried she will get tired of it and leave me. Blogpost, I know, but I need to get this off my chest my niggers. Any lifts for this feel?
>>77573208>>77573867that sounds like low bp, you taking any meds?alternatively anemia if you like almost lose vision when getting up quickThis used to happen to me when I was younger and I'd struggle with it for a few days or weeks and then it went away on it's own and never came backeat some salt and potassium, low electrolytes when cutting are a common issue causer
>>77573237Keep your workouts exactly the same, especially weight on the bar, except halve the number of sets.
>>77573237you need to maintain the weight on the bar and intensity but should (and will need to) drop volume and frequency by as the studies say up to 2/3rdsso basically drop a set or two from your exercises still going close to failure with the same weights drop the frequency to 2xweek and eat a lot of proteinlyle mcdonald's RFL book and videos (the 4h one on solomon's channel) talk about this
>>77573992I'm taking fin for a year now and only that. I don't think it's related. Also I don't lose vision, the world just spins. I measured myself with my smartwatch I am within normal bounds I think, it shows stuff like 103/82, 92/72 which is fine I think.I'll see a doctor tomorrow, fucking shit.
I finally hit my goal of getting to 100kg on the bench press.After plateauing with dumbbells I switched to the barbell in July and I've been increasing the weight every time I get 4 sets of 8. After weeks of trying I managed 4 sets of 8 at 97.5kg today and can now finally have a working weight of 100kg.
I cant even fathom whats going on with dating these days. Like i dont understand how is it possible that average chick has hundreds of options while average guy has none. I cant wrap my head around it. Like bro there is roughly equal amount of men and women in the world. So HOW THE FUCK is dating so swayed in woman's favour. Just the other day i saw some chick, she was even older, like 30, bragging about getting 400 adds on social media overnight. 400 overnight like man what the fuck man. Like how is that even possible. The only logical explanation i have is that women are desirable say 18-30 y/o but with men the windows a bit wider so in theory for a girl you are "competing" with wider group of men age-wise so lets say theres 1 chick 18-30 y/o for every 2 guys 18-45 y/oBut thats just 2 in 1 ratio which doesnt explain the actual 100 to 1 if not 1000 to 1 ratio in real life. Like women these days do not have to tolerate any percieved shortcoming in partner, be it height, humor, money, hair, looks, intelligence, they can just find another guy that fits all the criteria cause they have so many lined up.How the fuck does it work? Is it some kind of manufactured shortage?
>>77573989>I can’t get hard because of anxiety>wanna kms because she’s so fucking hot and I really wanna fuck her, but I can’t get out of my own head>I made her cum twice but I can’t get hardlol you literally put her on the pedestal and were her oral bitch
>>77574346Supply and demand. What you said is basically it. More men are going after a small pool of women giving them more options. Also because of social media women are exposed to more men than they could've realistically ever met before it.
>>77574346Believing old chick lolUsually woman do hit its sad how many divorced and alone they are.They cant find good men while being low standard. Just work on yourself and good women will line up.
>>77573889Thanks for the reminder :)
>>77574346>roughly equal amount of men and women in the worldYou aren't going after undesirable chicks. All men want a bare minimum of quality that most modern women just don't pass.There's also the viable age ranges. I'm 36, most women I check out are under 30. Women 18 to 30 are being chased by men 18 to fucking mid 40s. That's almost 2x ratio.Women above 30 are still chased as well, but by an even bigger range. 30 to 40 year old women are sought after by 30 to 60 year old men. Yes there are plenty of 60 yo men who end up with 40 yo women. Money talks, and TRT is a game changer.Which brings us to women in their 50s, where the imbalance obviously inverts. So if you want easy pussy get the lube ready and learn to appreciate saggy salami tits and disintegrating ass cheeks.
>>77574309Congrats on hitting your goal! Sometimes getting out of a plateau is just about mentality
>>77563913No matter your race or creed,politics or religion, this applies to anyone-In any situation you find yourself in,just imagine yourself as the anime guy,and you will surely prevail, yae,thou shalt win and be happy,reee
>>77563913Anal-anon here. I know you all missed me (right...?). Had some health problems the last few weeks. Kind of still going on, maybe coming out of it now.Still trying (for anal), still hungry (for booty), still dragging myself forward little by little (towards the backdoor). I think it's going to be a long, hard winter for me.Oh well. I'll give up the dream when I'm dead. Until then...
>>77575690Hope you're good man, it's always good to read you. Hope you make the journey before you die and everything gets better with your health.
>>77575677What a badass. I hope he recovers from this event and his heroism is rewarded
>>77575673Thank you. I'm finding the smaller increments you can use with barbells much better for progression than the larger jumps you have to take with dumbbells.
>>77575693Appreciate it. Extremely high chance of survival at this point. The difficulty now is mostly scraping what's left of me off the floor and getting that mess back to work.Health scares make ya think, ya know? Am I going to go my entire life not getting some of the things I want? Aside from the anal stuff, there's a few entries on that list. I've always made sure to be working towards them, and I've checked a few of those boxes over the years, but I could be working harder.Anyway. Feeling strong for the first time in a while today. Back to it. Dare I say, WAGMI.
>>77575841wait, your current life-goal is the anal sex?
>>77575842I've got a bunch of goals, lol. The anal thing is just the fun one to talk about here.
>>77575844I wish you good luck in your endeavors but please re-consider as poop comes from there.
>>77575849Not right now it doesn't!>me, hopefully getting to say that someday soon
>>77575855oh. i haven't followed your story...okay, cool, may you become strong and healthy again.yeahbye
>>77575690I missed you :) keep striving towards that butthole, it’s only over when your heart stops beating
I got in a car accident yesterday. I’m lucky that nobody was injured and that only my car was dented. I’ll do better moving forward
>living temporarily with sister, brother in law, and two young children>bring home some groceries, run into them in the living room>bro in law says "look who brought in the guns!" in reference to mah biceps holding the groceriesI know it's not too serious but still feels gud. wagmi
>>77576030car accidents always rattle you up. it's normal to feel off and the fact that you are uninjured is the most important thing. you already got the right mindset of moving forward. best to just acknowledge it happened and know it'll be a distant memory soon
Been dating that cute elegant femcel for a few weeks now. Got her to make eye contact a few times, cuddle. Sometimes when we have a drink I can feel her very touchy with me, but so far no luck going for a real kiss. She keeps her mouth shut, tells me she'd like to kiss me back but can't. Should I actually tell her to...open her mouth?I've had raging erections every time I feel her against me, it's very hard to be in this situation because I like her a lot, don't want to risk losing her by being too physical, even though that's how I am.>>77573989Have you tried supplementing like a good /fit/izen?Nofap for a few weeks, zinc, ginger, lemon, honey and dark chocolate/cocoa did wonders for me when I was in your situation. Also magnesium, though never knew if that had any effect on me. Never had that issue again and even had trouble cumming too early because I was greedy.
>>77576100>getting into a bed and cuddling with a girl before actually kissing hereither larp or underaged
>>77574075103/82 and 92/72 isn't normal. What's your height and weight?
>>77575677Picture of the year. I hope to have as much courage as this man when the cards are down.
>>77576047Thanks. I’m dreading the bill but I know it’s just a material object. I have savings and can afford to get it fixed
>>77563913>10 years ago in the military I could barely do the minimum for push ups at 67 in 1 minute>Now I can do 125
>>77576038Take the victory, bro. Everyone is mirin' your gains. WAGMI
>>77576338Congrats! How's your form though?
>>77574346honestly i still think we have it better than women, at least when it comes to dating forna relationship (as opposed to casual dating or hookups). women have a much easier time finding men who want to be in a relationship but most men are shitty partners, so they spend a lot of time in really shitty relationships. it might take a long time to find a woman who clicks with us, but once we do the bar is so low that as long as you're not abusive you're treated like you're a gift from god.
I WILL BENCH EVEN MORE I WILL CONTINUE MY GROWTH I WILL BEGIN MY JOB SEARCH I WILL MAKE IT Last week I finally broke out of my plateau and benched even more! I felt so powerful but also very in control. I’m still extremely happy, I needed a victory to regain momentum. I’m going to continue this trajectory and keep growing stronger. I need to think positively and remember that event. I think I’ve perfected my form so that I’m capable of benching well. I will grow even stronger I’m starting to stress out about finding a new job. I keep on hearing about how rough the job market is. I’ve worked at elite companies and finished the CFA program, but I’m still anxious. Moving forward, I need to prioritize sending out resumes on a constant basis. I have a plan, now I need to believe in myself. I will land a better job in due time. Stay strong and persevere! Although the path uphill is daunting, we’ll find a way to the peak. WAGMI!
>>77576537Agreed. Men have it harder to get dates but women have it harder to form relationships
I finally finished my forever cut, reached 153lbs 6'0" like 6% body fat and realized I have no abs because I never trained them while bulking. So now I'm doing two weeks of TDEE +/-0 eating to get my body used to being this weight, and then I'll start lean bulking like I should have done a decade ago.Getting lean was about as hard as being in the Navy was. I hated being in the Navy, and the discipline I needed to stick to my diet was insane. The last two months I literally cut contact with everyone I know to make it happen (surrounded by feeders).It's true what they say. Nothing tastes as good as being skinny feels. Keep at it anons.
>>77576581That’s crazy impressive! But don’t neglect your friendships, they’re important. What abs exercises did you do?
Struggling to make gains. Still skinny. I had a great body a few years ago and then fell off when I got a new jobFinally finding some consistency again but I'm just not growing, I'm eating so much but goddamn it's hardKeep saying it's time to really lock in but I just don't, not sure what to do
>involved in an aquatic pool sport>after the event, sometimes people shower on the open deck showers to get the chlorine off and everything>girls stand there in their one piece swimsuits having a full on shower in public including shampoo, soap, etcam i a disgusting pedophile creep for needing to deliberately look away from them doing this to not stare and ogle them? do you guys think im really the only autistic virgin creep whos seeing girls showering in public and cares about it while everyone else doesnt even notice? i mean for fucks sake these girls are standing under these shower heads, shampooing up their hair, soaping themselves up, bending over while soaping up, its legit like theyre taking a completely nude shower, just that they have a one piece suit on while doing it
>>77576158183cm 80kg, 6ft 178lb? quite fit and lean.I got tested by a doc he says all looks good but I need a blood test.I'm no longer becoming dizzy but I still get lightheaded when I get up.
>>77576618While bulking, literally none. While cutting I did decline bench situps with a weight, pulled a muscle and had to stop, then for the last year or so I did the cable crunch machine. I was doing 245lbs, but it was double action so the real weight is halved, and I was doing four sets of ten every workout MWF.In good lighting it's clear there's something there in my abs, but they don't pop because the muscles never really had a chance to grow. I'm probably going to max out that machine and then do the decline sit ups with a weight again, and maybe also leg lifts, weighted if I can figure out a way to do so.Friendships are restarting on halloween when I can be a little looser with my diet! I'm actually going to dress up this year, ideally something shirtless.>>77576652Anon locking in is really hard and it turns out it requires sacrifice. But don't judge gym progress based on how you look, that takes months to change. Judge progress by putting more weight on the bar. Focus on that, and the body changes will come. Also for the love of god DO NOT OVEREAT. Cutting fucking SUCKS and it's way easier to just not eat in the first place. LEAN BULK no more than TDEE+500kcal/day. Slow and steady is way better than starting and stopping.
We’re so back :)
>>77564472already turned down from one job, lining up an interview for another that's more local and more promising. went to a networking event for the company i fucked up the interview with in june. it was awkward but man i wish it had worked out. last week in general was exhausting. between the interviews, the blood, the networking, and then we had the first go of the ivf implant i was just exhausted. BUT i got all my workouts in and I now have over 150 users of my first app. i need to lock-in with the certs. its 100% being lazy and focusing on other things. goals this week - survive. my friend wrote a book so want to read that which seems like a good launch back into finishing up my backlog. settle on a winter workout plan. find next networking eventmeant to post this a few hours ago but since then my company has started the most massive layoffs i've ever seen. i'm probably done on friday
>>77576652set a basic routine and commit to it. you don't have to be basic, but you just have to start. it'll take a while before you start to see results
>>77576656>am i a disgusting pedophile creep for needing to deliberately look away from them doing this to not stare and ogle them?Yes you are if this is how you feel wtf
>>77576656You’re thinking too much. Nobody thinks you’re a weirdo for not staring at showering women
>>77579031He said girls and is acting in despair like he can’t help but look at them
i have bad thoughts so i might drink achohol today
>>77576705Thanks for the advice! Wear something for Halloween that shows off your gains! You need to prove your resolve to your friends
Been having a shit month. Life has been shitty, mainly my job. I need to quit ASAP but this job market is shit. I'm too the point where I don't care if I have anything lined up I just need to quit. On the good side it feels like I've got a new start. For the last few years I've just been gliding through life and now is the time to take life by the horns and live.
>>77569958You're sweet anon good luck big bro
>>77579686No, you wont.
>>77578133Sorry you didn’t get the role. Focus on how you can improve yourself moving forward. If you got rejected by that company, you probably have some clues on what they want. Hopefully you survive your layoffs. If not, you’ll have more motivation to get a better job
I love my gf very much but I think I have retroactive jealousy.I'm 26m, was khv zero previous partners when we met 6 months ago but we've had sex and I'm really happy she's my first everything. I however am not her first partner. I get triggered with obsessive thoughts when her ex is brought up and I hate having these thoughts. She also recently mentioned going on several dates (nothing sexual) from dating apps after they broke up, but before meeting me, we met at work. She has since deleted the apps after meeting me and she keeps reassuring me that sees a future with me and is committed. I know these thoughts are irrational, but right now I just feel like the next man in line. I didn't exactly describe it that way to her, I said I got the ick after hearing that because she's a girl lol, but she now feels like she has to walk on eggshells around me which I don't want her to do. How do I:a) make her feel safe being open about her experiences b)be secure in myself when she does mention the past
>>77580783These feelings will never go away. Do not wife your first if you were not her first.
Moved back to my apartment, ex-wife left to live abroad. Got heavily fucked up yesterday. A date tonight.
>>77580783>She also recently mentioned going on several dates (nothing sexual) from dating apps after they broke up>I know these thoughts are irrational,No. It's logical. >she has to walk on eggshells around me which I don't want her to do.This is getting into Stupid Shit territory. Either the red falgs are obvious and you know what's gonna happen or you need to basically come to terms with her being a fuck thing and stop acting like she's anything more.
>>77570941>>77580058Thanks i talked full 2 hours in class. It was enjoyable i dont like talking and im shy sometimes not saying anything. But i guess we laughed and talked. It was very fun talking ha. She did say she would go erasmus next semester so euh idk how to go with this. I dont know if this good match though. Euh well see i got exam together same time monday so it will be our last time talking.
Been a week off lifting due to overwork and illness but my forearm tendonitis/golfers elbow and right shoulder has started flaring up for no discernible reason since yesterday, feels like not lifting has somehow made all my existing injuries worse in a very short span of time. Horrible feeling.
>>77579686Don’t undo your progress just because of temporary weakness
>>77579821I'm sorry your situation sucks, but don't make stupid decisions because you're unhappy. Continue enduring your job until you obtain a new one. You're clearly ready to try again, so you're gonna make it
>>77564559I was in and out of rehabs and homeless shelters for years. Christ saved and changed me. It can be so much better man.
>>77581276I'm trying hard not to quit but I'm just so burnt out at my job. Seems like it's going around and a lot of people feel similar to me. I've had to hold myself back from just out right quitting, buying a boat and just going sailing. Never sailed a day in my life. Had my two weeks notice typed and everything. I'm just gonna keep looking and I hope I'm out of here by Christmas.
>>77580783>but she now feels like she has to walk on eggshells around me which I don't want her to doIf you didnt say anything/brushed it off she would probably have continued to tell you more, which lets you know just how bad it is and your best move
>>77580783You're a former incel who finally got to have sex. Don't throw your relationship away over jealousy. Just try to avoid the topic and change the subject when it does appear
I’m struggling a lot mentally but I want to believe next week will be better
I wrote in this thread a while ago saying that I was a 30yo virgin and that I was unsure whether to pursue an obese chick who seemed to like me, well in time I realized that I really like her and now she's my gf. Before we had sex I told her that it was my first time and she didn't mind, I couldn't even get fully hard because of of performance anxiety lol so I basically just fingered her a bunch, but the next time my little fella worked properly and we fucked properly and all is good in the world.That was yesterday, 'tis a good monday today.
>>77585027You know this sounds like you acquiesced to desperation and are coping right?
Can't seem to completely drop porn. Sometimes I can go a week without any urge, then relapse for a day or up to a week. I hate this addiction
>>77585055How's your social life? Some say that we are addicted to porn because of our lack of social intimacy.
>>77585057It's great. Have few but good friends, every weekend I make plans, I've been posting here before about how I've been seeing a girl long distance. The problem is the phone, social media and dead time in front of the pc I think, which lures me to it. Last week I spent all free time playing HoI and didn't have any urge
>>77585046You sound like you are projecting your depression onto others
>>77585064I'm not and good for you if you're happy with your situation. I'm just saying it reads like total and utter cope from the outside.
>>77575690Good for you. My progress had stalled.>massage candle sex>she’s extremely high orgasm threshold, takes a lot of work, quite frequently have to finish by fingering >never had a clitoral orgasm>try adding a finger on the butthole to push her over the edge>too much lubrication from the candle, it slowly works its way in all the way>fireworks>next time miss and stick my tongue up there when aiming for the other orifice>she pauses, we have a conversation about being more gentle, about her not having that experience >during the same sex session when doing the whole “whispering in her ear” she admits that she wants to try but I have to be way more gentle and gradual No more fingers, we’ll go shopping for toys instead. Maybe a set of plugs with different sizes. Maybe a remote controlled one. And buckets of silicone-based lube, no more of that oil-based candle shit.
>>77585065eh it's ok I made my peace a long time ago with being a loser from society's pov, I just want to carve a little comfy corner for myself and live a chill life
>>77585084Odd thing is that I don’t even want to have anal sex, just to get her to have a clitoral orgasm easier, since clit’s tendrils wrap around there. Maybe I should buy a magic wand…
>>77563913Another Monday is here and I get another chance at fulfilling my routine.>Monday: Upper + swimming>Tuesday: Lower + judo>Wednesday: Jogging>Thursday: Upper + swimming>Friday: Lower + jogging>Saturday: Swimming>Sunday: RestI love this routine and I'm really happy that I'm back in the pool, I had to skip cardio for the longest time because of a cold. After this week I get to increase my lifts which should push me to bench with 30 kg dumbbells on the heavy weeks. It feels like a great milestone on the way to 40 kg. My homegym masterrace dumbbells will max out at 40 and then I'll look into setting up a rack for my barbell.This year I've been increasing my results slowly in all three domains, lifting, running, and swimming. I know there'll be a day sometime soon when I have to prioritize, but at this point I'm just really happy to get stuff done and to have fitness as a cornerstone in my lifestyle.Thanks for reading my blog, and happy Monday to all of you.
Another weekend without binge eating.
so friday morning they finally laid me off along with half the company. it was a fucking bloodbath. staying there to deal with the aftermath would have been worse. but i got severance and unemployment so there's that. kinda glad it wasn't just paranoia. got an interview wednesday but otherwise just taking it easy outside of just getting my plan together. my sleep has been fucking brutal - managed 6.5 last night. blood test in a bit to confirm that the pregnancy test was accurate. goals this week - prepare and ace interview, reach out to research networks so i can get paid to dish on old company, research how to unfuck my sleep for good, schedule my annual physical, use all my golf practices, go through expenses to turn off all unnecessary shit. basically - plane has crashed and its time to see what i've got to work with. also going to be going balls deep into these certs - i'm challenging myself to get my PMP by thanksgiving and whatever else in the meantime. so goals this week - plan for next two months realistically.
Still haven't got over a cough that started early in august Its worst when I exert myself, I go into a coughing fit and I feel like im going to vomit Went to the doctor twice and they gave me shit that "helped" but never got rid of the coughIm going to be like this forever arent I
>>77585278Its probably bronchitis at this point. Really just have to keep taking shit and resisting the urge to cough as much as you can
>>77585279I finished all the steroids, antibiotics, etc. i was prescribed a month ago and sucked up the entire inhaler of albuterol sulfate last weekSo I just have to will myself not to cough to get better? Like an itch basically?
>>77585286Yeah bronchitis is an infection and irritation of the throat caused by coughing while sick. Therefore the throat needs to heal and it cant do that if youre still coughing. The more you cough the longer you stay irritated and open up new areas for the infection to spread.Stop the cough, stop the spread and end the bronchitis
>>77585292I'll do my fukken best lol
>>77580860Good job getting back in the saddle! It’ll take a while but you’ll find new chances to be happy
>>77580899You’re gaining experience. Even if this relationship doesn’t workout, you’ll be more comfortable when you try pursuing your next crush
>>77585405The new fwb looks like someone I could really fall for. Gonna have a “talk” after she finishes her doctor exams(why the fuck do they even need those after 6 years uni and 6 years experience is beyond me).
Feeling a bit anhedonic and a lack of energy so I'm quitting some vices to let the withdrawal and frustration push me a bit. I'm rather irritated than tired.
>>77580951Sorry about your injury. If it really bothers you see a doctor
Broke like 15 day no fap streak today, lost my streak, my state of grace, and sinned in the eyes of the most high God and my savior Jesus Christ. FUCKING PISSED OFF
I legit feel like dying. A decade of my life has gone by and has been nothing but misery
>>77585027Congrats on losing your virginity! It’s normal to be scared. Try aiming a little higher in the future
>>77585116I did today's stuff. The only thing I didn't do was tricep extensions. It feels a bit like a copout so I might do them before bed. I couldn't swim very well, in part because I fapped between lifting and swimming, and in part because this is a 90% week with the weights and my arms got tired. I love swimming and I consider switching to lifting fullbody twice per week for my next block so that I can swim four times per week instead of three.
>>77585116You have an intense routine! Good for you for following it though. Swimming is definitely the best cardio. Happy Monday to you as well :)
>>77585967Thank you very much. The intensity works because I'm a novice but also because the program (tactical barbell kek) is meant to go with lots of cardio or other types of physical activity. You cycle through weeks of 70/80/90 percent of your training 1RM which makes it possible to recover while still gaining some strength. It's not as fast as other programs, I just feel like shit if I don't do cardio so I found a program that works for me.
>>77585269Great job!
>>77585270Sorry that you got fired, vegeta, but you make it sound like this is the best possible outcome. Hopefully this situation gives you the final push you need to land a better role! Keep grinding, eventually something will come your way
Still a homeless mid 20s dweeb.They brought me on as staff in the shelter I was in tho, so for a bit of chores daily, I can stay here much longer and alos have a bit more freedom like more food and food storage. I scored a thing of creatine and im prolly gonna drop some money on stocking canned tuna/chicken/eggs so I can easily hit macros for cheap, on top of the free food and stuff we get from whatever is donated.Im still waiting on longer term bridge housing but for now im pretty comfy in this lifestyle atm and my lifting and nutrition is highly dialed in
>>77585461Congrats on moving on! Remind her that you're interested even if you can't date right now
I WILL BENCH ONE ADDITIONAL REP THIS WEEK I WILL ACE MY NETWORKING SESSIONI WILL BEGIN MAKING PLANS TO ESCAPE I WILL MAKE ITBenching is going really well. I think I’ve broken my mental barriers and returned to hitting new peaks. I failed my final reps both times last week, but I’m proud of my improvement. I just need to do one additional rep to hit my goals. I can’t fear failure, I have the strength necessary to succeed. This week I will realize both of my goals. Tomorrow I have a significant CFA networking event. I want to bring confidence to the dinner. I’ve worked hard to pass my exams, now I need others to recognize my dedication. Although I lack the hard skills, I have the capabilities to succeed in my next role. I will get a better job next spring or summer Don’t let fear prevent you from climbing higher. The only true limit is what we impose upon ourselves. WAGMI
my life is so pathetic and boring that i got a jury duty summons today and went in, have to go back tomorrow to continue selection process, its a trial that could last until until around november 20, and i kind of hope that i get on the trial just to break up the sheer monotony and misery of my worthless life.
>>77586125Rooting for you dude, being homeless seems utterly nightmarish.>>77586407I never understood peoples disdain for jury duty, at least if its your first time. Even if the case is run of the mill and boring it seems like it'd be interesting to be a part of the legal process and see it from the inside. I haven't lived in the US for a long time so I don't know if I'm even in the pool for a summons as a citizen living abroad but if I moved back I'd be happy to do it.
>>77585492Use anger but also use love and compassion. You must love yourself enough to want to reach your full potential
Starting to figure things out finally. At the crisp age of 33. I stopped hyperfixating on myself and using various coping mechanisms to explain why I'm getting nowhere in life.
>>7758573715 days is still impressive. Start again tomorrow, you can do it
>>77586498what did you discover
>>77585084>muh toys and lubelmao at your pathetic life
>>77585027Let her find someone who will genuinely love her
>>77585873thanks! I don't plan to "aim higher" though, I want to make things work with her>>77586589I don't know what you mean
>>77586670I mean let her go and find a man who will love her as she is
they say 'nothing tastes as good as skiny feels'i couldnt care less about being a skinny little weak dyelbut i will sayno late night goon sesh feels as good as waking up at 8am without an alarm set and feeling fully rested
>>77586693but I do like her as she is, I was uncertain initially because I've never been into fat chicks but after getting to know her better and enjoying her personality I realized that I really don't mind. It's not like she's a SSBBW anyway, she's definitely obese but she's still fit enough that one of our first dates was a hike. I'd say that she's better off with me than with a fat fetishist who would likely only use her for sex
>>77586699By obese do you mean actually obese or just a chubby girl? Post a reference pic. >I'd say that she's better off with me than with a fat fetishist who would likely only use her for sexShe might also be better off with another chubby guy who doesn’t call her obese all the time and sees her as beautiful
>>77586709I never said a thing about her weight to her face and even with my friends I don't comment on it, but she's objectively fat so here I'm just telling it as it is. Pic related is a decent visualization of her figure, she has a belly but nice big tits as well.>another chubby guy who doesn’t call her obese all the time and sees her as beautifullife isn't a disney movie, fat men are attracted to the same women as other men and a chubby guy won't see her as more beautiful than I do. I'm making things sound to negative, she has a beautiful face and amazing eyes and a warm and caring personality, and I have my share of flaws that she's looking past to stay with me but we feel comfortable together and for now things are going great actually
>>77580783It will never get better. These feelings will continue to haunt you for the rest of your life. Trust me, I'm speaking from experience. Good women are hard to come by, so if she's worth of keeping, you should cheat on her to make up for your inexperience. It's only fair, she had her fun when she was young, you'll have yours later. Non-virgin women don't deserve fidelity anyway.
77586560Can we ban this shit jeet already?
>>77586307I am, two more weeks to go till the exam. Meeting occasionally now, spending amazing time together, best sex I’ve ever had by a mile, but also the regular activities and communication are top tier. Halloween is gonna rock.
>>77586744Sounds sweet, I hope it all works out for you anon! Don’t mistreat her if you ever feel like you can do better, the best thing you can do in that scenario is break up with her and go for the woman you want
>>77580783Why are you asking a bunch of sociopaths and incels what to do? These guys are sensitive, bitter and petty, so their responses will always focus on giving the other person revenge of some sort. Realistically most people have had previous experiences, including most normie men. If she were dating a normal dude, he possibly would have had way more experience than her and probably wouldn’t care cause he may also tell her about his exes and previous experiences going on dates. You can listen to these guys and start to hate her because now you think she’s damaged goods. But if you’re gonna do that, the best option is to break up with her and try to find yourself this unicorn virgin who isn’t also a religious nut. If you want to keep this relationship going in a healthy way, you need to work on yourself first and give yourself a reality check. You’re dating a normie woman who has had experiences like most normies do. You either accept this as a fact of life or stay mad the rest of your relationship. You can’t change the past. If her past is that much of a dealbreaker then break up with her.
>>77585739Your life only ends when you stop trying. Set some realistic goals and take steps towards them
>>77586470I don't mind it, but...>be me>almost 40yo>haven't lived with my parents since 23yo>live in a composite completely different state now>mom forwards me a bit of mail>it's jury duty summons>call them, explain, I haven't lived there for almost 20 years>"well, you'll have to come down and show us proof etc etc">lady, that's 800 miles away>furthermore, I've never owned property or registered to vote in that county, how am I even in your system>"well, maybe you can just send us proof of...">uh, no, I'm not giving you shit. I shouldn't be in your system. I don't want you even having my name, let alone any idea where i live now. This was your error, you fix it.>"well, you really have to...">I don't have to do shit. I have never voted in that county. You shouldn't have my name in your system. You fix it.>"well, I guess..."That was years ago. I still wonder, if I get a speeding ticket while visiting the ol' 'rents, will they haul my ass off on an old warrant for failing to show for jury duty?
>>77587077People disdain me. There is no point
>>77587204Just from that post alone I can see why too, it’s deserved, you should kys
>>77586125At least you’re gradually improving your life. Keep working hard, eventually something will come up
>>77586560>>77586789Oops. My curry fingers slipped
>>77563913lowest point in my life right now.met this women over the summer, lets call her cindy. we instantly hit it off, both attracted to each other, went on dates. then her ex bf found out she moved on. shit got messy and we started becoming on and off, i ended up befriending her brother through all this.few days ago we decide to go play darts. someone invited this new girl named haley. we end up being a team and instantly start to vibe, giving each other those looks, bunch of stuff in common. eventually we start talking about our relationship problems and cindy gets mentioned. haley casually mentions cindy is her aunty and we ask each other our age. she is 19 and im 36. we laugh at the age gap and say we are only dart partners.night goes on me, haley and one of the brothers end up at haleys house, everyone wanted to stop drinking but us 3. the brother passes out on the couch. so me and haley go sleep in her huge king size bed. one things leads to another we end up fucking for hours. and again in the morning. then it sets in that she fucked someone way older than her, and i realize i fucked my gf/ex-gfs niece. looking back, as soon as haley said that was her aunty i immediately seen the resemblance. they both looked at me like this. haven't talked to cindy yet and i dont think nobody knows...yet.
>>77587402This should be a high not a low. Don't let others tell you how you should feel about this.
>>77587404maybe. its still fresh in my mind i need more time.they had so much similar shit in common from humor to interests. but that look man, haley melted my heart that night and didnt realize until later why. i basically fucked the younger version of cindy.
>>77587425Do you think it's possible to work a threesome with both of them?
>>77587513they are both like empathetic and naive so yes probably through some extreme manipulation. am I capable of doing it? no lol
>>77586698As I get older I appreciate sleep so much more. Hope you’ve been sleeping well
>>77587402I appreciate the humblebrag, anon.
>"It's Monday, we're gonna do amazing this week">Binges in the evening>Gives up yet again>Just keep getting fatterWat do?
>>77587513>>77587552Seek help, hope both women dump you
>>77587765Start over tomorrow. Dont let failing on Monday let you believe that you can give up entirely on this week
>>77586470>>77586407update: i have to return to the court tomorrow and im pretty sure im gonna get selected. the lawyers didnt ask me any questions (because i didnt answer any) like how they grilled and excused other jurors. this is a civil case and i could have given answers that definitely would have gotten me dismissed. but like i said, my life is so meaningless, boring and pathetic that unlike everyone else i actually might be sort of interested to be on the jury.
>>77587020thanks, I hope so too! I don't think I could forgive myself if I mistreated her, she's the kindest person, I'll heed your advice.
>>77588038who knows, you might be getting into a 12 Angry Men style adventure>>77587402wow you almost got it as bad as the homeless anon
>>77588179How did you meet her?
>>77588217I had been tasked through a mutual friend to help her fix an old machine in her shop, it required a bit of trial and error so we had to meet several times and we were doing pleasant small talk, eventually we also started texting regularly and then we started dating. I recently found out that the aforementioned friend had wanted to set us up from the start and I never suspected a thing, that clever bastard.Yet another reason why I'd be a useless sack of shit without my bros, but to be fair meeting chicks through mutual friends was the most common way to meet someone before dating apps.
>>77587402>that was her aunty i immediately seen the resemblance.nog detected
>>77587402Honestly that experience isn’t the worst in the world. Just try to dissociate with Haley
>>77585084Get this. https://a.co/d/0hcih5HKOr something like it. Look for RELAXING serum, NOT NUMBING. Trust me. This will make a world of difference. >t. Anal expert
>>77563925This image doesn't motivate me at all.
>>77588494Well it's a lot of pics of ripped dudes' bodies and some decently pretty but not particularly incredible girls' faces, innit? I think whoever made it may just have a little explaining to do to themselves.
>>77588233How come it took you so long to find someone to lose your virginity to?
>>77588550Just for reference I'm normal looking and well-groomed and I have good friends, but I've always been introverted and insecure.Back in hs I tried my luck with a few girls but it didn't work out (looking back I also ignored some girls that I might have had success with but at the time I was truly clueless)As a young adult I fell into a deep depression which compounded the problem, I was too avoidant and shy to attract girls passively and I didn't pursue any because of a broderline narcissistic sense of self-pity. Eventually I just became used to being alone, I did crave affection but not enough to drag myself out of the comfortable and safe pit I had dug myself into, I also quietly accepted that I might never feel the touch and the love of a woman and people around me all but stopped inquiring about my romantic life. Only in the last few years I was able to start seeing some progress in my mental state, through slow and gradual self-improvement I also developed self-love and with it came the ability and the need to love somebody else as well. At first I fell pretty hard for another girl, we had gotten close but in the end she just didn't share my feelings, this hit me hard but then I bounced back and the experience had helped me become more emotionally mature and even a bit more confident, oddly enough. Finally this summer I met my now girlfriend, just a couple of years back I would not have taken the plunge with her (it still wasn't easy at first, I kept overthinking things) so we found each other at the right time in our lives. It feels unreal after all this time alone ngl, the longer you stay a virgin the more you expect that you'll always be one, but it turns out that the guys who say that it's never too late were right. I guess that even with all my issues I could have lost my virginity earlier if I had put my mind to it but I alwways found casual sex off-putting, I stubbornly wanted a relationship from the get go.
>>77588483the only problem is the age gap with Haley lol. she's been in shock and I feel terrible.
>>77588649I’m in a similar boat - I spent most of my 20s living at home with mental illness. Thanks for the advice, I don’t want to become a wizard
>>77588678Then leave her alone you weird creep lol
Hey all, I want coffee. No sugar thanksLife is so good. All my patience and work is paying off. I'm in love. She's trans and likes all the same stuff as me. I came inside her three times last time she stayed over. I'm going to marry her. She's so perfect for me. Gym is going great, down to 155 and feeling strong. It's a beautiful day today
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>>77589099BIG STICK
>>77588038update again: i did get selected for the jury. im actually happy because its only half days but i get paid in full for my job. hell yeah. unfortunately the case is extremely, extremely boring civil case so thats going to suck
>>77589115Kek it's been months now, at some point you gotta stop obsessing over me. This is not good for your mental health.
>>77563913It’s been a week of “no contact” and every time I wake up she’s removed me on a new app. It was a long overdue breakup. Anyway, has anyone tried GVS’ “Recovering powerlifter” program? I’m considering it, might be helpful given my background.
>>77589165GVS is a grifter. Anybody who shits on Dr Mike is.
>>77587402This is like the second time I've heard a similar situation. My friend's cousin also had a situation where he ended up fucking a 19 year old when he was 34. He's getting married now (not to the kid). I just found it amusing to hear your story. But good luck.
>>77589138thank you for performing your civic duty. hopefully there will be some unexpectedly interesting parts of the case.
>>77589488You’re so cute, I want to eat you
Having a tough time tonight.My wife and I are going through divorce. We have a 1 year old and 4.5 year old.I had affairs over the last year, she knows, and that part of the reason we’re getting divorced. The other part is she has a mean streak and our relationship has been on the rocks for a few years. Her mean streak is what killed my love for her a year ago.She keeps going back and forth between wanting to make the relationship work and wanting the divorce to be finished.On my side I like her when she’s nice, but then every few days / week or two she’ll go into “mean” mode where she becomes an asshole and tries to pick fights with me. It’s exhausting. So I can’t give her what she wants (a commitment to try and make things work) because I can’t see myself spending 30+ more years with the mean side of her.In any case tonight she messaged me:“Just left. Going out. Probably until late. If deciding on not coming back before tomorrow morning (7:30am) I’ll text you so you can give [1 year old] a bottle through the night when she needs it (bottle filled in the fridge)”I’m heartbroken. I know it’ll get better, and I know time and feeling loved from other people will mend it. But still I feel sad about this.Just wanted to spill my guts a bit.
>>77563913I started using meth again after being clean for 2 months. Which is the longest I ever been clean and I felt like a normal person. But I noticed my life wasnt getting better and I was still at the same level because I would would forget what I have to do and not commiting to a productive routine. I am lazy and unmotivated to make a professional life and being a financially responsible adult. I just went to my job and work out and fall asleep after I'm done. I need to fix my lazy habits and and focus and I let meth back into my life. Now I know I'm not at square one I'm still on the right path. I just have to stop pussy footing around and go all in and cut everything out and do what it takes to become a better me. I don't want to die a loser, I'm going to fucking win I didn't give up last week and I'm not going to give up now after I came so far. Thank you for listening to me I needed it. Pic related this was me last year at my worst
>>77589628This is me now
>>77589628>>77589630My goals are to work out more consistent and harder. Learn more proper diet and what my body needs and add more diverse exercises like t bar rows or something. And my other goal is to log every penny I spend on a daily basis and save as much as I can.
>>77589071np, I hope you get better soon. When you're in a healthier state of mind everything else seems to fall into place, it's crazy how much better you can feel even when nothing has changed externally. I went from wanting to kill myself to barely being able to recognize those kind of thoughts as mine and that was before any woman came into the picture. But I don't want to oversell it, I'm not saying that I've never fallen back into the unhealthy and negative thoughts, you first learn which way is up and then how to swim back to the surface, until eventually you're somehow able stay afloat most of the time. I used to think that it would have never happened, that it was impossible, that my brain was broken or simply wrong in some way, but it doesn't have to be this way.You don't have to heal completely to start having success with women, but any amount of self-improvement will make things a bit easier and smoother. Keep working on yourself and be open and welcoming to other people, then it'll only be a matter of time and luck.
>>77589637Keep it up dudeYour future self will thank you
How do i pull myself up anon?
>>77590035start with negatives or use elastic bands
Just had my first interview in years to claw my way out of mentally ill neetdom and was extended an offer. It's for a month-longth manual labor job but hopefully can get the ball rolling; I'd avoided for years due to OCD and panic attacks but am hopefully gonna be able to grow out of them(Still shook around the qt cashier an hour later tho :[ )
>>77589165Sorry about your breakup but you need to move on. You’ll find someone better
>>77589616>My wife and I are going through divorcemake sure she gets all the kids and minimal money and you're golden. It's a W in disguise my friend
>>77589693Thank you brother. I needed to remind myself of that.
>>77589616Honestly it sounds like the marriage was meant to fall apart. Stay strong brother. Hopefully you get some custody and minimize your payments
>>77589637All admirable goals. You’re back to square one but your desire to succeed will push you forward. Don’t fall down again
>>77590763>the marriage was meant to fall apartthat's not how it works
>>77589690Thanks for the kind words brother. I’ll remember them as I try to get back on track
Life has crushed me nonstop continually. I wish I could do more but I am basically stuck, like Napoleon on st Helena
>>77590035focus on the little ways you can improve your life. you can rewrite your life's story if you want to
>>77590289Congrats on getting the job! You have the right mentality, you'll have to start somewhere
>>77592886You'll find a way. Focus on what you can do now
>sore hamstringsGod I love RDLs
And that's a wrap frens WAGMI
