A femdom thread with less of the gentle femdom, weird racebait cucking, and borderline-vanilla pegging that seems more popular these days, and more restraints, terrorizing, and all-around meanness. That said, it doesn't need to be wildly extreme or anything. Most femdom is fine, just going for more of "don't spam 20-page manga chapters of a girl basically having vanilla sex with a kind of shy and reluctant boy while acting bossy" kind of thread.Male, female, or futa subs/victims all accepted, as long as it's an anatomical female calling the shots! Domme-only pics that give BDSM vibes also okay.
Optional but much appreciated thread sidequest: give OP remedial lessons on proper femdom /d/gen-maxxing in 2026, specifically how to AI erotica. I've basically opted out of everything to do with AI for the last four years out of genuine disinterest, but my life and health have gone to shit this year with few realistic prospects of improvement, and wallowing in my fetishes is almost the only thing I have left now that seems worth doing. The AI porn boom looks like it could drastically improve that, but I'm showing up so late to the party, I don't even know where to start. Literally I just know that there are supposedly very good ERP sites now, but I don't know which ones are good/trustworthy/optimized for my interests, and I know that people can easily make porn media with text prompts somehow, but also don't know which programs for that are worth using or where to start. I'm stuck in nolife-mode fapping like it's the 2010s here, send help at once.Inb4 check the diffusion general, etc., not a word of that makes any sense to me. I need someone to explain me how to start on this stuff like I've been in a coma since 2021.
>>11589061Ideally you're going to want to have a decent PC with at least 12 GB VRAM for this stuff. If not, sorry, sucks to be you. Local models are best for this stuff because of a lack of censorship.>ERPLurk these threads: >>>/g/110016810Download and use koboldcpp, SillyTavern and Gemma 4 26B. Use chub.ai for cards.>imagesLurk these threads: >>>/g/110016925Use a Forge variant rather than ComfyUI because it's much easier and more intuitive. It's been a while since I've genned so I'm not sure what the anime SOTA model is. Probably Illustrious or Anima based I imagine. Lurk, read the archives.>I need someone to explain me how to start on this stuff like I've been in a coma since 2021.Honestly this would require like 10 wall of text posts so nobody is going to do this. Lurk the threads and read past threads on Desuarchive.
>>11589815Thanks for the info, I'll start reading up on that stuff this weekend.>Honestly this would require like 10 wall of text posts so nobody is going to do this. Lurk the threads and read past threads on Desuarchive.It's sad, because that wouldn't even have been seen as unusual on 4chan in years past, but you're definitely right about that. I appreciate someone responding at all, I honestly expected that post to go un(You)d to bump limit.>Ideally you're going to want to have a decent PC with at least 12 GB VRAM for this stuff. If not, sorry, sucks to be you. Local models are best for this stuff because of a lack of censorship.Yeah, I'm working with an eight-year-old 8 GB unit. It seems to be around lower limit of what's technically possible to use, but not the type of card that would be reasonable to found this hobby on.I've been looking into things on my own it since I made that post, and I guess my impression so far is:>imagesI now see why people just talk about Stable Diffusion, because it appears to be about the only thing around worth using. And even that you apparently need to jailbreak. The contrast between the general public moralfagging about an AI pornography epidemic and the absurd lengths to which these companies actually go to lock users out of it is kind of ridiculous.I found a site called Perchance that has pretty limited if any potential for actual erotica, but you can at least quickly generate images of cute girls and chat with rudimentary incarnations of their alleged personalities, so for now, I'm planning to just mess around and learn some basics on there, since it's free to use and doesn't even require an account.
>ERPThis seems WAY less impressive than I believed two days ago. At first I was overwhelmed by the hundreds of sites offering this service, but what I've gathered so far:>most of them try to cockblock you from doing much weird kinky shit with the models, and therefore are dumb and boring>basically all of them charge more than they're worth to use, and their free trials don't offer enough to let a noob like me see if it's even worth a dime or not>every single one of them is probably a scam anyway that lets you do like 10% of what you could make on your own if you're willing to learn a bit moreGiven my limited VRAM, I might try text-only ERP with the LLMs, but even that feels less than I'd hoped for from what I'm reading.>choice between being in a never-ending arms race against the censorship regime of anti-fun American models, or having an easier time with Chinese models that kind of suck at roleplaying>looks hard to get them to indulge my kinks either way, people sometimes have to fight a bit just to get them to go along with romance novel scenarios>truly besting censorship usually relies on pay-to-play third party stuff, not sure if $20 a month is worth it for a bot to talk dirty to me once in a while>you also need to develop your own style of prompts that get erotically-reluctant LLMs to do what you want, but the companies are deadset on stamping this out, so you'll have to revamp your workaround strategy every few months>chatbot memory for the RP scenarios reportedly not much better than "talk to your favorite anime girl" sites from c. 2017, users regularly have to break immersion to get the bot back on course; Claude is possibly an exception, but is also the biggest pain in the ass by far to jailbreakOverall, I don't think it's come as far as I thought, but it's probably a little early to be saying that when I haven't tried it out yet. I'm on day three of getting into this, so I'm likely wrong about at least 50% of everything I just said anyway.
I also think I just had the wrong idea about how widely-adopted the technology actually is at this point. I was thinking I was a total dinosaur already left in the dustbin of history, but actual consumer-level AI adoption in 2026 seems to be largely confined to various dedicated nerdy subcultures. After just the last couple days of reading up, I now believe that most people who brag about how they "use AI regularly" like they're a cosmopolitan citizen of world of tomorrow actuallyt just mean they ask AI dumb questions and to do Alexa/Playstore app-tier petty tasks for them a lot. The scale of adoption for people who actually understand how to do anything interesting with it (including making porn) seems more on the level of home internet-adoption around the time of Eternal September right now, so I don't think I'm quite as behind the times as I initially feared.
>>11590003>>11590004You'll be able to imagegen at standard Stable Diffusion resolutions with 8 GB VRAM but may struggle to gen at higher resolutions.You could give Gemma 4 12B a shot with 8 GB VRAM. Gemma 4 is, surprisingly, pretty damn uncensored. You won't be able to get good speed+context length out of the 26B with just 8 GB.
>>11589061>>11590067Also, re: femdom gens, be forewarned that doing gens with more than one character is Nightmare difficulty. 1girl is easy. More than that is hard as shit.Controlnet is your friend, stuff like Canny or Anytest. Feed Controlnet some selective lineart and it will spit out the characters you want doing the things you want after enough seed rerolls. You can generate said lineart by tracing photos, video stills or 3D renders. Koikatsu can be useful for this.
>>11590067I'll give both a try soon, then. I'm somewhat retardedly enamored of Perchance at the moment simply because I got it to work right away and am already having pretty good luck with keeping consistent character appearances and generating more softcore fetish content for myself. With my level of knowledge, it'll probably take me a day just to figure out how to even get Stable Diffusion or Gemma 4 running in the first place. From what I read, it looked like 512×512 was the best I could hope for from Stable Diffusion, but that shouldn't be much of a real limit if I just pump the pics I like into an upscaler.If I'm correct in my read of the Diffusion threads that you need some third-party Github shit to generate porn with it, then figuring out to marry that software to vanilla Stable Diffusion is probably going to take me a while as well. Does Gemma 4 12B not need that kind of jailbreaking to get going with?>>11590073>Controlnet is your friend, stuff like Canny or Anytest. Feed Controlnet some selective lineart and it will spit out the characters you want doing the things you want after enough seed rerolls. You can generate said lineart by tracing photos, video stills or 3D renders. Koikatsu can be useful for this.I'll have to take some time to learn what most of that even means, but nice to know Koikatsu's useful. I actually already have that, and also have been dusting off my old Illusion games the last couple of days as I begin this training arc. Sadly, Koikatsu is the one I've barely used; I'm better with AI Shoujo and MUCH better with Honey Select 1.
>>11589061RE: image genning: Learn how to Gimp/Krita. You can photoshuup your source images for image-to-image and feed that to the AI. I don't know if I'm supposed to post this here, but here is something I genned during the summer.I only have time for a very short and brief explanation, but I genned Bea separately, then I genned Nessa separately, used Krita to erase their backgrounds to make it transparent, then copy/pasted both into the same image with a transparent background. Leave the BG transparent and save it with just the characters in the image. Use PNG exclusively to preserve the alpha transparency. Feed this photoshuupped image to yon image-to-image AI generator and describe via prompt exactly what you want to see and how you want the background to look like. For this, I explained to the AI that there should be a tropical paradise resort with palm trees in the BG and that behind Bea's back there should be that large wooden cross that Bea is strapped to with thick leather bonds. AI genned all the background stuff for me and this came out.So generate your characters one by one separately in the poses you want to see them in, copy paste to a blank image with a transparent BG and feed that to AI and let it create the scenery.
>>11590132>RE: image genning: Learn how to Gimp/Krita.Seconding this. Also learn how to inpaint, and how to use an image editor to guide your inpaints. Inpainting is THE difference between a flawless gen that looks like it could be human art, and a gen with 20-30 obvious AI flaws.
>>11590132>I don't know if I'm supposed to post this here, but here is something I genned during the summer.Nice pic. AI doesn't violate /d/ rules as long as it's done in anime-style like that, so if you've done more like it on-theme for the thread, feel free to share!>>11590132>>11590207Appreciate the guidance. Right now, my main obstacle is actually freeing up enough drive space to get Stable Diffusion installed, which will probably take me a few days at least. I could try to learn some basics in Krita in the meantime.Actually, before I start sorting through my drive, do either of you know how workable Stable Diffuson is on an AMD graphics cards? Not only am already about at the threshold of VRAM, but most of what I see online highly recommends having an Nvidia product to be doing this at all, although some people seem to think AMD works fine.
>>11590004Just use F-list like a normal pervert
>>11590862I'm too shy and not bi enough for that.
>>11590623>basics in KritaPay particular attention to learning how layers, transparency, clone tools and the eraser work. These are my most used tools, though certainly not the only ones. Layers and the eraser are important, because you can use them to take two generated images and merge their best bits together. Got a bum hand in one, otherwise acceptable gen? See if you could transplant a better looking one from another gen where the character is doing the same pose. Just as long as both images are the same px*px size, you can just layer them on top of each other and see if you could reveal a healthier limb from the bottom layer by erasing away the twisted monstrosity on the top layer. A tip for Gimp: In Gimp alpha transparency isn't usually enabled by default for the layer, it needs to be enabled separately from the layer-window. In Krita, you can just use Krita's eraser to start creating transparent areas right away.>freeing up enough drive spaceYeh, you're gonna want terabyte class hard drives in the future. Loras eat space and generations build up clutter and shit really fast. Don't hesitate to nuke things that do not work.>AMDNo personal experience, but reports state that at least for video AMD is less supported. Yeah, it's all about the NVidia cards, unfortunately. Why do you think that company is making a killing right now? Their product sells like hotcakes 'cause they're the only game in town. For image gens you should probably be fine, but I don't have an AMD setup to test with so can't say anything concrete.Here's an alternative one of the same kind with Nessa+Bea: a secret meeting in a hotel room for some "pain tolerance training". My favorite aspect of this one: Nessa's smug face. She knows and Bea knows that pretty soon this is gonna suck for Bea.
>>11590984I really might just be out of my league hardware-wise trying to do this. Ah well, I'll probably still see how far I can get. At least I'll learn some things on the way to my dead end. I guess for now I can try learning some of the stuff you're talking about in Krita/Gimp on the lower-end AI shit I'm definitely able to pump out on generative websites.Your pics really make me wish I could post some of my old Honey Select dioramas they remind me of on here, but the style of the models probably isn't allowed on /d/.
>>11589061>specifically how to AI erotica. I've basically opted out of everything to do with AI for the last four years out of genuine disinterest, but my life and health have gone to shit this year with few realistic prospects of improvement, and wallowing in my fetishes is almost the only thing I have left now that seems worth doing. The AI porn boom looks like it could drastically improve thatLook I'm not going to hate on you for enjoying AI porn, but given what you said I think you're definitely going to get more fulfillment out of actually writing shit yourself. It sucks to have health problems, I had testicular cancer five years ago, but you gotta like, live while you can. Put some effort into it. Or even learn to draw. Like it's mean to say it but if the fat women who still masturbate to Harry Potter can do it, why not you? I did, three out of 200 people even liked the dumbass story I posted. Why is femdom the community full of people who just give up? Is that what you look for in femdom? The guy just gives up immediately? No, right?
>>11592789You're assuming my health is much better than it actually is. I have a genetic disease that fucks up my connective tissues. I can't even play vidya these days without the little micro-movements in my fingers from hitting the buttons causing pain in my shoulders and neck, with the potential the lock up the muscles in my neck and require and ER visit to fix. Learning to draw ain't in the cards for me.That being on top of living with 24/7 chronic pain from two spine injuries (neither of which probably would have happened without the genetic disease making my body weak as hell), and having an active carotid artery dissection that I got during the second injury which is too deep inside my brain to operate on, so I'm just taking blood thinners and hoping it heals (not even the first time that's happened to me). Sitting up in a chair for four hours straight puts me at pretty close to my physical limits.Not to bring the thread down too much, but I also live in the United States, where everyone like me who can't work 20+ hours per week but isn't yet elderly will be losing access to healthcare at the start of 2027, so realistically, given my shape these days, there's a 50% or better chance I will no longer be alive by this time next year. Even if I was physically able to draw, I don't think I would be able to git gud in the time I assume I have left time. So to answer your question, the only thing I look for in femdom at this point is a form of escapism as immersive as I can possibly make it from the last few months of an incessantly pain-ridden and otherwise empty and meaningless life.If it weren't for all that, though, your point would be taken. Learning to draw my fetishes would be cool.
>>11592937Yeah that sucks. Marfan syndrome? Hope you get through all the red tape and paperwork somehow. I guess my statement only applies to everyone else.Also I kinda thought by erotica you meant stories, not pictures, lol.
>>11592937Sorry to hear about your shit luck, bro. :(Ailments and kinks definitely do not mix. I'm not dying, but I might as well be. I'm a 46 yrs old virgin guy with Asperger's. And that's it right there, I'm done. I'm fucked. It'll never happen. There will be no catharsis. I'll never consummate this experience with a live partner. The minute I mention the magic words "aspie" and "disability pension" I become toxic waste and people disappear from around me. Sure, I could pay to a pro to "tolerate" me for a few hours, I'm more than capable. But it has started to seriously annoy me that there's nothing real in this world, that everything is just a transaction. That to women I'm nothing but my wallet. And in general, if you don't fit the traditional normie guy mold, women will not give you the time of day. I can't begin to describe how little I think of people these days.That's why I hail AI as a godsend. There's plenty of elitist hate around it, but at least the fucking thing gives me what I want without making some fuss over it, telling me that I don't deserve something because I just happen to have the toxic boy parts, or because of assburger, lol.
>>11593049>Marfan syndrome?Surprisingly, no. I have a variant of Ehlers-Danlos that is unique to me. The closest match is Classic Ehlers-Danlos, which I have all the symptoms of so I tend to just tell people that's what I have. The main difference is that there seem to be cardiological problems more typical of Marfan, hence the artery dissections. The EDS was originally found when I was being screened for Marfan following my first carotid dissection. It's acknowledged that I'm basically living with some Marfan syndrome risks while having a variant of EDS, but no one really understands why or how much I should expect to have to worry about it (by which they mostly mean they don't know whether or not I'm at risk of the aortic dissections that tend to kill people with Marfan on the spot).>Also I kinda thought by erotica you meant stories, not pictures, lol.I meant all of the above, really. I knew next to nothing about what was and wasn't possible when I started the thread and asked for advice on AI. I'd heard the ERP stuff with AI was promising when I started, although it seems less so than I believed. Now I know people are using it to generate erotic stories out of whole cloth as well, but I'm not sure I'm interested in using it for that.I like the idea of writing my own stories, but want of IRL experience always made me assume anything I produced would be stupid and embarrassing, so I've never had the courage to do more than type out three or so short fantasy scenarios (not even with specific characters, just describing the scenario). With how my life is now, I'd probably be less embarrassing to try these days, but the brainfog from my neck injury (and just depression from my life conditions as a whole) is now really debilitating. I doubt I'd be satisfied with anything I wrote, and focusing hard enough to write in the first place would be very challenging.
>>11593160Yeah, I can relate to a lot of that as well. I'm not much younger (39) and still a virgin, too. I've had four therapists now tell me that I have autism, which came as no surprise to me, but that they're not qualified to formally diagnose me themselves. Of course, you're not allowed to see any of the people who are qualified when you have poorfag health insurance, so that's about as far as I'll ever get with that.Weirdly, I'm actually not awful at connecting with women as long as I'm not TRYING to be romantic or sexual, and I think kind of relate to them better than I do men overall (though that's not saying much). I've had a lot of times when I've inadvertently "seduced them into seducing me", but the whole relationship falls apart almost immediately if I try to reciprocate. Obviously even those little breadcrumbs from Femaleness are a thing of the past for me now, though, with my health (and, consequently, my finances and ability to participate in society) being what they are.
>>11593160>But it has started to seriously annoy me that there's nothing real in this world, that everything is just a transaction.I think that's a consistent theme with foreveralones who have an affinity for femdom. An inability to accept the watered-down, transactional nature of reality as a whole. I've never been able to shake the sense of "okay, but that's just weird and creepy, and I know it's not how it's supposed to be" no matter how old I get. It's weird that the vast majority of men seem innately wired to process romance as Troubadour-ish worshipful idolization of the desired woman, but that vanishingly few women want to receive that.And then what? You realize that doesn't work, but if you learn to hate yourself in the specific kind of functional ways that allow you bury those feelings, you can spend your life with some random hot person who became attracted to you because you misrepresented who you are, and who MAYBE once in a while will allow you a glimpse of what you know you need in the same way that Mesopotamians connected to their gods by worshiping statues of them?>That's why I hail AI as a godsend. There's plenty of elitist hate around it, but at least the fucking thing gives me what I want without making some fuss over it, telling me that I don't deserve something because I just happen to have the toxic boy parts, or because of assburger, lol.That's how I was thinking of it when I started the thread, although it looks like I'm going to be pretty limited in what I'm able to do relative to what I'd hoped. As stupid as it may sound, I've come to the conclusion that I actually NEED some very immersive femdom-themed fantasy world to spend about half my waking life in just to cope and survive the days at this point. It's the only thing I've found these last few months that soaks up my attention sufficiently to keep me from spending half my waking life contemplating suicide instead.
>>11593335>As stupid as it may sound, I've come to the conclusion that I actually NEED some very immersive femdom-themed fantasy world to spend about half my waking life in just to cope and survive the days at this point.AI isn't gonna provide that because its output quality degrades as the context gets longer.Basically, once you get a few hours into a conversation, it starts getting retarded and you need to start a brand new conversation.
>>11593360That's what I came away with when I was reading about it as well, so I'm probably not even going to bother trying the bot ERP stuff unless I somehow realize that I'm being way too pessimistic about what you can do with it. Not sure what I'm going to do instead yet, would've been nice if that had lived up to all the hype. Not that it would have been enough by itself, but in combination with other activities/obsession, it might have been.
>>11593368What you CAN do is start a new chat with a summary of the previous chat. This will obviously preserve major plot developments but not fine details.
>>11593335Being a sub guy sucks so fucking bad. I almost wish I didn't have this at all. But right now my entire identity is wrapped around it, so can't just drop it like that.One of my biggest issues is, how can I trust a woman as a domme, when I can't trust them as a steady, reliable partner? We're talking about a major transfer of power, but what happens if she happens to have a bad day and decides to take her grievances out on me while I'm vulnerable? I've seen enough petty behavior to actually consider this a real threat now. Another thing that has stopped me from trying.>>11593335>And then what? You realize that doesn't work, but if you learn to hate yourself in the specific kind of functional ways that allow you bury those feelings, you can spend your life with some random hot person who became attracted to you because you misrepresented who you are, and who MAYBE once in a while will allow you a glimpse of what you know you need in the same way that Mesopotamians connected to their gods by worshiping statues of them?Oh yeah, the sweet nothings. Women don't want the truth, they want the fantasy. And I hate being a liar, it always catches up with you, ultimately just ruining the whole thing when the fantasy crumbles.>>11593308>I like the idea of writing my own stories, but want of IRL experience always made me assume anything I produced would be stupid...I wrote a 147 page femdom S/m fantasy story 4 years ago (unfortunately not in English), despite no hands-on experience of my own. If you go down this route, just describe your heart's deepest desires, the things you'd actually want to do. Remember, for a writer, imagination trumps dry facts. Jules Verne wrote "From the Earth to the Moon" in 1865, a full century BEFORE space travel was even possible. Verne sure as hell had no hands-on experience with space travel, he wrote about it anyway. Go nuts, man. Just make sure you have a flawless grasp of the target language you're going to write to.
>>11593660>One of my biggest issues is, how can I trust a woman as a domme, when I can't trust them as a steady, reliable partner?I think the key is that by the time you're there, you're not trusting an avatar of the abstract notion of Womanness, but a specific individual who you've presumably gotten to know and chosen to invest trust in for some reason. Unless you're more talking about this in terms of the desperation from being an eternally scorned submissive male rendering us more susceptible/tolerant to abuse and manipulation in general in return for fulfilling female connection, which…yeah, I don't really think there's much you can do about that, that's something we'd have to live out of ourselves through experiences.If I somehow make it through all the shit I'm living with now and get a next chapter of my life before I'm too old for it to matter, I might be lucky that my only female friend viciously betrayed me at my lowest moment earlier this year. Taught me a lot about holding boundaries even in a position of powerlessness which will probably be useful if I ever have a chance to get to know a woman again. Although if I don't get that chance, then it was of course just more meaningless suffering.
>>11593660>Women don't want the truth, they want the fantasy.To be fair, that's what we want, too. They're just usually in a position reasonably expect that the fantasy be catered to a bit, until hotness erodes and/or the wisdom to temper that craving sets in as they settle into their thirties. Whereas for nearly all men, that's going to blow up in your face the first time you try, and it will hopefully only take so many tries before seeing the depressing pattern. If we enjoyed the asymmetrical mate-selection power women do, I have little doubt we'd make similar demands concerning our fantasies, so I can't fault women for it much. After all, where's the incentive to embrace lame-ass reality, or even your prodding to notice its power over your future, when the fantasy appears that attainable? You'd get close enough to living it that believing it's just within reach in reality would be perfectly rational based on the results you're getting, and forsaking the goal early on without spending many years falsifying that belief would presumably be experienced as an egregious and unnecessary act of self-effacement.>And I hate being a liar, it always catches up with you, ultimately just ruining the whole thing when the fantasy crumbles.Same. At some point in my twenties, I decided it's not worth it. I'm not likely to get what I want either way, and the trade-off of losing your fealty to self in exchange for the pleasure of minor wins that never add up to anything just isn't worth it most of the time according to me. Not that I've perfectly lived up to that since.>I wrote a 147 page femdom S/m fantasy story 4 years ago (unfortunately not in English), despite no hands-on experience of my own. If you go down this route, just describe your heart's deepest desires, the things you'd actually want to do. Remember, for a writer, imagination trumps dry facts.What language and what was the story about, if you're willing to share?
>>11594091>What language and what was the story about, if you're willing to share?Finnish. I wrote a story about two high-school kids, just recently turned 18, who both have sexual issues. The boy is obsessively in love with the high-school's most popular girl, but she resents the attention she's getting from him (we've all been there, right?) and starts bullying him to make him go away. The boy doesn't give up, though, and sneaks to her home while her parents are away on a business trip to peep on her while she's having a nude swim in a sweltering July heatwave.Embarrassingly, security camera catches him jacking off to her with his pants down and dick whipped out. When she obtains the seccam footage, she uses it to blackmail the boy into being her slave in an S/M session. See, the girl is secretly an aspiring dominatrix, but she's totally in the closet about the whole thing, because she's afraid of losing her status as the popular girl if she's outed as a vile perv and a reprobate.Without getting into too much detail (because I've decided to reserve my rights to this story), their night together devolves into whiplashes, hot candle wax, nipple & scrotum clamps, kicking and beating and finally into piss and cum, with the outcome that they miiight have a future together after all, now that they know each other better.Basically, the youth that I wanted to experience, but was denied. It's... complicated. That's what I wrote about: the youth that I always wanted to experience.
>>11594090>I might be lucky that my only female friend viciously betrayed me at my lowest moment earlier this year.Yeah, that. Exactly that. That unpredictable lack of loyalty that really struck me down, because now I don't know if I can trust anyone anymore. Has made it impossible for me to even consider things like a shared bank account or in general moving in together with somebody, now that I know with almost 95% certainty how it will end, and how messy these things are to clean up. :(
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Sorry for delayed replies. Exhausted from doctor's appointments, then had to wait till the end of the read-only crisis.>>11594144Sounds like a cute story. If it's at 147 pages with that as the full scope of events, it seems like you put some heart into it and didn't just churn out pure smut.>>11594149Honestly, I don't think it's a woman problem. It just damages you more when women do it to you for obvious reasons, and the number of years it takes to understand how the opposite sex thinks adds to the threat by making them less predictable until you're in your late twenties or so.Her betrayal fucked me up pretty good. I still get flashbacks to it almost everyday, and I doubt I'll ever really get over it unless I get the chance "overwrite" it by deeply connecting emotionally in some way with another woman at some point, which this person has now also made much more challenging for me to do even if I overcome all of my more acute medical problems. But just using myself as an anecdote, I was also betrayed by a male friend I'd had for twenty years just a few months before that in a far more fucked up way that tangibly affected me 1000× more than what she did. The fact that hers felt 1000× worse regardless just goes to show the power women have over men. Shame more of them won't just step into it and wield it responsibly.
>>11595283>then had to wait till the end of the read-only crisis.Yeah, you didn't really miss much while you were gone.>Sounds like a cute story. If it's at 147 pages with that as the full scope of events, it seems like you put some heart into it and didn't just churn out pure smut.Took me 12 months to complete it. From January -2022 all the way to first week of Jan. -23, which also proves that I didn't just prompt the whole thing with AI. I wasn't aware of AI's very existence until November of -22, when image prompting began gaining traction, by then most of the story was already written to completion and I was just going trough re-writes to fix shit that didn't work. I was on a roll the whole time. My vision for that story was so strong, I knew I just had to record it. Creatively, I hadn't achieved anything like that before, despite a few previous efforts to write something. I did make sure to include character development. The experience damages them both, mentally and physically, and the only way to get out of their self-made mess is to grow up and accept a more adult way of thinking. The girl starts out as such a snotty little princess, but she learns to take responsibility, when she begins to understand what it truly means when somebody else's health and safety lands in your hands, and what could happen to you if you fail, and that "dominatrix" is not a carte blanche to just beat people up. The boy in turn learns that he can't just force his teenage sexual urges on somebody, and that he will be in trouble again in the future if he doesn't learn to control his obsessions and impulses. In the end, both come out as better people thanks to the power of S/M.
>>11595283>Her betrayal fucked me up pretty good. I still get flashbacks to it almost everyday, and I doubt I'll ever really get over it unless I get the chance "overwrite" it by deeply connecting emotionally in some way with another woman at some point, which this person has now also made much more challenging for me to do even if I overcome all of my more acute medical problems. But just using myself as an anecdote, I was also betrayed by a male friend I'd had for twenty years just a few months before that in a far more fucked up way that tangibly affected me 1000× more than what she did. The fact that hers felt 1000× worse regardless just goes to show the power women have over men. Shame more of them won't just step into it and wield it responsibly.I really don't have much to add. I can relate. I've had so many unreliable people in my life. Each of my so called childhood "friends" gave me the ol' knife to the back at their own turn, my parents were complete loonies during the worst years of their failed marriage and subsequent divorce, and the Finnish BDSM circuit feels exceedingly hostile towards anyone who doesn't toe the line of the established scene veterans. I've also learned how apparently Asperger's makes me worse than the most miserable drunks and drug users, and that I'm not good enough as company as a result despite me being the one with no criminal record and no addiction problems. And of course, everything that is now going on in the political sphere. So, to reiterate, I can't even begin to describe how little I think of people these days.
>>11593660>>11593160Since I'm the asshole who said "why is femdom the fetish where people just give up", I want to clarify that I wasn't really talking about dating specifically. Like yeah that's one part of life. But it's also about maybe leaving the world a better place for the next generation of subs. That's why I was encouraging the OP to write or draw porn. Like I don't know what kind of community there can be. Porn is the only thing that brings us together right now because there is nothing else that actually filters out the normies. But that's also not up to me. Individually our contributions have almost no effect. Together we can be at least as much of a cultural force as the furries or something. Congratulations on the fucking novel. I haven't written anything nearly that long. Just like 3000 words lol. I thought about learning to draw but it seems so hard and I have two jobs and I already write hundreds of pages of shitposts every day so I figured why not a story? I lowkey wanted to write like an actual romance plot but I don't have the endurance yet. I do have a dominant girlfriend though lol (more than a decade!) but I'm a gentlefag. And that's easier, especially if you're thin and you shave and you go for like slightly thicker girls who aren't that much shorter than you (who knows? maybe you'll break reality and land a woman taller than you). The submissive ones won't even look at you, so you have a mind-reading glitch.
>>11596452>Together we can be at least as much of a cultural force as the furries or something.Not sure if I wanna be compared to that group...>Congratulations on the novel. I haven't written anything that long. Just like 3000 words lol. I thought about learning to draw but it seems so hard and I have two jobs and I already write hundreds of pages of shitposts every day so I figured why not a story? I lowkey wanted to write like an actual romance plot but I don't have the endurance yet.Thanks. If you decide to write, don't expect to release some runaway smash hit, or become depressed if people don't care. Folks just don't read these days. That 147 pages that I spent a year creating... Well, only one kind person ever verifiably cleared it from start to finish. To her credit, she did seem to enjoy it, if her brief comment was anything to go by.Drawing traditionally by hand definitely is a whole other beast. Takes years to master the finer aspects, and that's IF you're talented. I tried to draw some 25 years ago, but realized I hit my limits much too soon, with no signs of improving, so I just dropped it.If you write something, do short pieces at first, see how your works are received. Accept criticism with a open mind. Writers have a boundless capacity to improve, if they're just willing to accept that they're not perfect. Keep the pace snappy, and preferably keep the length shorter rather than too long. Readers generally don't seem to want to end up getting lost forever in the author's inane yammering about some insignificant detail. The direction must continuously be forward. And don't pretend to be better than you actually are. Just do an honest, coherently described account of YOUR vision.Also, 2 rules: Chekhov's gun and Kill your darlings. Gun means if you write about something, it must have plot significance later in the story. No wasted elements. Darlings means, if an idea sucks/doesn't work, get rid of it. No matter how much you like it.
